I really like my bf and he knows that but he also knows that i wont really go past makin out, touchin and the ocasional grab and he says that he is perfectly fine with it. But a couple of days ago i was at his house and well we'll just stay things were goin really good and i did somthin that i have never done before (reached down and played with everything that he had) and he really liked it and loved doin it to him and wanna keep on doin it. but iam very strong with my linits and dont wanna be teasin him to much. do you think that i should stop? he said that he loved it ans that i make it very hard to just stop there but that he would stop there for me. Do you think im being selfish.
2007-03-27 04:53:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im real glad that i have some mature people that answer these ( im totally being sarcastic)! im not talkin about goin any furthure i wont do that and at 15 i think i can handle kissin if you didnt do anthing when you were 15 im sorry
2007-03-27 05:00:37 · update #1
Sounds like u have a good guy here, most guys would huff or dump a girl for not going further. He has respect for you.
Just ask the fella does he want you to stop doing what you did. But if u both enjoyed it then i dont see why u should stop.
U cant just go from kissing to full sex if ur nervous, playing around and expermenting helps u feel more comfortable about taking the next step. Dont do anything until u are ready tho!
and by the way i really hate all them people on here who just answer 'grow up ur too young' what kind of advice is that?just because people under age are not legal does not mean they dont have feelings to want to do it.... give them some proper advice!
2007-03-27 04:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all its called having self control and self respect and asking him to have respect for you and you're wishes.
There is nothing wrong with that at all its a sign you're growing up and becoming mature.
If you want to stop its up to you but just think about this, how many guys do you do this to, then eventually go all the way before you start to think less of yourself? Its a choice only you can make.
Finally there must be love involved which you've mentioned nothing about???
I would definately consider talking to a parent about this, after you've stopped teasing him so much at such a young age.
2007-03-27 04:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being selfish at all. Your bf seems to be respectful of you, and it would prob be best to stop if that makes him and/or you want to go past your limits. Stay with your limits; you may regret it later. If you come to a point in your relationship that you feel you can go past the limits (like marriage...I'm not sure if this is what you were aiming for...??), then go for it. If you are wanting to wait for marriage for this stuff (again, not sure?), stick with it. Down the road you wil be glad that you did. Just don't put yourself in a situtaion where it will likely happen, and you will be fine :)
2007-03-27 04:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Faith P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you DEFINITELY shouldn't do it again if those are the limits you set for yourself... If you do it again, it makes you look weak and like you don't really have the limits you say you have... You need to be careful because even though he says he doesn't mind 'stopping,' he does mind. So doing that just makes him think he's gonna get some when you aren't putting out. And eventually he will get mad. I'm not saying break up with him, I'm just saying be REALLY careful. And if he really really cared and he knew your limits, he should have told you to stop because he cared about you and didn't want you to compromise your morals. He can't let you always be the one to say stop because sometimes we're tempted just as much as they are. Sit him down and talk to him if it isn't awkward. Hope this helps...
2007-03-27 04:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Hayden F. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 13:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think your being selfish. I think he should be commended for being so patient and understanding. However, the next time you play with his thingy, make sure you help him to climax otherwise, he will become sexually frustrated in which case, you would be selfish.
2007-03-27 05:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a delicate subject involving what and how u both r planning ur lives. if u r destined to each other and trust each other very well, then u both must use condoms and go for it. Else don't even touch. That's it.
2007-03-27 04:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your limits are going pretty far up. if you start to break ur limits and then get all into it but ur not ready it may cause him to think that you are just a tease and cause him to get angry. because when it gets to a point that you guys were almost having u-know-what then you stop because your not ready,and you had just broken your limits then it becomes a problem
2007-03-27 04:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not bin selfish. just resonable. if u wanna..u no.. den do it!.
if u dnt wanna .. u no .. den tell him.
neway 15 int too young 2 kiss.
u no wot mite b but o well.
its ur dision if u wanna. . u no.. do it
lol
:P
just tryin 2 keep my answer clean
2007-03-27 05:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have to ask this question, then you are way too young to be even kissing.
Grow up, talk to your mommy about sex safety, and go see a counselor on why you feel the need to do sexual things at your age.
2007-03-27 04:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋