im 18 and i had a realtionship with a 39 year old man. i know bad idea for me. well he ended it after 3months. i really do love him and i just started to get over him some what when i just found out i was having his baby. he is already with another woman just got done with court with his ex wife and seems very happy. now he told me when we were together that if this was to happen he would leave. well hes gone and im 6weeks along. do i tell him? if so how do i tell him? he has been very mean and cold hearted to me. please help what do i do?
2007-03-27 04:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, you need to act NOW! Please for the sake of your future, don't have this baby. You are a kid yourself and you have no clue about the responsibility you will have as a single mother. Plus you don't want to be explaining to your baby why his father doesn't like him/her, why you are constantly worried about money, why you never went to college, or why you gave him/her up for adoption. If your parents aren't there to help you, please listen to the people here...you need to terminate the pregnancy now!
The other thing...it seems like he was rude to you and having his baby might piss him off, so I would definitely tell him. If he says it's your problem, you tell him it will be his when you sue for alimony, unless he pays for abortion now! You should just call him up at the HOME PHONE, when you know he won't be there. So, I would leave a message on his answering machine so that everyone can hear it (hopefully his new woman, which will screw him additionally) and if he doesn't call you back, go to his work and make a scene in front of everyone...you have to be tough, especially if you are considering keeping this baby as your life will become a constant battle (for money, for respect, for everything). So, you better learn how to deal with things sooner than later; cos if you can't deal with your ex, how will you be able to deal with his baby???
Lemme know if you need anything...
2007-03-27 05:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That mean, mean guy! How could he do this? Anyway, if you can ask support from your parents, please do so or ask help from friends or shelter for single moms. It's not your business to know about his personal life, focus on your baby's future instead. After the baby is born, file for a child support. As far as I know, the only way that he could question it is through DNA paternity test for the baby. If he's the father, he will automatically have to support the baby. Lastly, pray for guidance and peace of mind. It does wonders.
2007-03-27 04:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mary Josette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and tell him, go get State assistance so you can take care of yourself while u are pregnant and so you will have insurance on you and your baby when it is born...Put his name on the birth certificate when the baby is born and ask the state to help you get child support from him..You cannot make him love you or the baby but you can make him help support it.. Next time you get with some guy do yourself a big favor and use birth control...GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-03-27 04:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by halfpint22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. I advise you to have a termination and find a man that really loves you. You are too young to have a child really and it will screw your life up. Go out there and develop yourself, get some training for a good job and be careful. This man is obviously a palyer and he will probably do the same to this new woman.
2007-03-27 04:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him now. He's already left, nothing to hesitate so much. If he is still a human being, he 'll at least help you with the finance while your pregnant. And after birth, you can drop the baby at his place for him to take care of. He may not like it first but being old as he is, if he hasn't any kid, he'll probably likes to keep it. I wish you strength and luck.
2007-03-27 05:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by LitMit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Wait until the baby is born, go down get on food stamps, medicaid and have them help you sue him for child support. Then you will have to share visitation and custody of the child with him.
2007-03-27 04:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, you have to be honest. this is a precious life were talking bout here darling. If you really love the man, tell him that 2. just be blunt in a mature and sweet calm manner. best of luck dear.
2007-03-27 04:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by jocelynnicolep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross im sorry but you need to move on girl!!! there is better out there for you then some old wrinkly man!!! nasty!!! there is someone out there for you around YOUR age so dont give up!
2007-03-27 04:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by slickssw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him and discuss the situation. He's going to have to pay child support.
2007-03-27 04:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know what's going on! it willl really depend on his reaction for you to decide...
2007-03-27 04:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Arissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋