My ex broke up with me around christmas time. He told me that he was doing this because of what the long distance has done to us. He joined the military to better his and our future originally, but the lond distance for almost a year took away a lot of what we had. He tells me that he still loves me and would love to be with me but with all that has happened he is unsure about how we can be together. He recently came home for a few days and we spent some time together talking and catching up. He told me that he missed me and has had second thought about what he did but for us to start something while he is so far away would be hard. He is home for good in 5 and a half weeks and would like to see if we can rekindle our relationship based on feeling we still have which we felt when he was home. However I have been having the strange feeling that he has been seeing somone else as he travels to a place every weekend, I have asked him and he says no that he isn't should i trust him?
2007-03-27 04:42:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please heed my advice.
Don't make this easy for him. Do not be so quick to take him back, and don't look too eager. If your gut feeling tells you he might be seeing someone else, don't ignore that. Keep that in the back of your mind. If you really feel like you want to give him a second chance, MAKE HIM PROVE to you that he is worthy of another chance.
Just don't ignore the red flag about him going off somewhere else every weekend. Even though your heart may say you still want him, what does your head say? Be careful not to always rule with your heart, use your head, too.
2007-03-27 04:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait the 5 weeks and see what happens. Having been in the military, I can tell you that abstinence is something that dies fairly quickly. I personally never cheated on my spouse, but I know there were times when the comfort of another woman would have helped me a lot. There are some very fine gentlemen that fell off the old fidelity wagon while they were on TDY, only to return to a great marriage afterward. I do not condone the practice, but certainly understand how it happens. If you love him let him tell you on his own. Maybe he isn't doing that and he is just losing touch with his feelings. He is under extreme stress and he isn't constantly thinking about you while he is guarding his men and himself against the enemy. When he gets home he may be just great. Give it a chance. Five weeks is nothing compared to a lifetime.
2007-03-27 04:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what I would think, the seeing other people thing. I know my fiance was in the marines, and while he was stationed (before he was with me) he said that alot of the men get the idea in their heads that while they are gone, the wives or girlfriends are cheating on them, so they do the same, but that is generalized, and this could not be the case with him. What you really need to do is talk to him, and convey your feelings. Let him know that you have some things to say, and you would want him to listen without him interrupting you. Then say how you feel, and that nothing that he can say can change the way that you feel, or your emotions towards the situation, but you would like an explination for the situation.
2007-03-27 04:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by BroKe (12NI) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls were born with a "gut feeling" , a natural intuition when it comes to men...well i have always trusted my gut and so far i have been right. only u can make this decision because u know him best, and thats what u need to go with woman! Dont be a rebound, or a homemaker for some guy who cant make up his mind about loving u...he should of known a long time ago. good luck and go with what ya know.
2007-03-27 04:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by jocelynnicolep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am confused for you. I would say that you should see how things go when he returns home for good...But I will say this, if you are having some trust issues with him that definitely has to be discussed in detail (why you feel this way, what happens to your feelings for him when you feel this way, etc.)
I'll leave you with this....If it's your gut telling you that something isn't right...more than likely, it's not right.
2007-03-27 04:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by yongceohr3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gotta admit it sounds slightly suspicious... maybe he was seeing someone else and doesn't want to hurt you... however if he is still seeing her that is not good open honest communication is always best if you don't have that you have nothing ( except maybe a chair on Jerry Springer waiting for you) good luck
2007-03-27 04:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by hyde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ascertain the reason he broke up. Is that reason still valid. If it is, then he will just break up again. If not, perhaps you guys have a chance.
2007-03-27 04:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to rekindle your relationship......but leave your options open for another potential love....until you see where it's going
2007-03-27 04:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by SassySista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can trust him but just keep your eyes and ears open...watch for unusal behaviors and if you suspect he is seeing someone follow him...Don't let him make a FOOL out of you....Good Luck!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 04:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by halfpint22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask a bunch of strangers. Only you know him and know what you want. Your decision will affect the rest of your life. You make it.
2007-03-27 04:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋