I have just broken off my engagement ring to a complete and utter looser (only just found this out). Do you think I should give him the engagement ring back, or sell it?
He does owe me money which I can't see me getting either?
2007-03-27 04:41:57 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oh and its £10K he owes me, so not small fry!
2007-03-27 04:56:30 · update #1
i'd sell the ring, glad you saw sense before you married him
2007-03-27 10:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The official ETIQUETTE answer is this:
The bride breaks the engagement-she returns the ring.
The groom breaks the engagement- he forfeits the ring.
If you have placed non-refundable deposits on things or already bought things for the wedding.
If it was far enough out that you have no money you are losing (no non-refundable deposits or bought nothing for the wedding) then you are give back the ring.
THE LEGAL SIDE
A ring is a contract--not as many people have suggested "a gift". The groom gives a ring, the bride gives a promise to marry. Whoever breaks the contract, pays the price. If the wedding is mutually called off, they split the costs. Often the bride wants to keep the ring b/c she is bitter--bitterness is not a legal term. Legally he cheats on you and you called it off--you are still the one that called it off. Pain and suffering does not count in a contract case.
If you have invested 5,000 in deposits that you can't get back then he would owe 2,500. In court, he would pay the 2,500 and would get the ring returned to him.
If you have sold the ring for less than its value, (say you pawned it and therefore only got a couple hundred), then you would be charged with its value deducted from his half of the bills.
BEST SOLUTION
To make him agree. Present him with the amount of non-refundable deposits and the amount he owes you. Suggest you keep the ring to balance that out. He agrees you are ok.
2007-03-27 04:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm under the firm belief that an engagement ring is essentially a contract of marriage. If you do not go through with the marriage, you should give the ring back. I understand that he owes you money, but I don't know that you should keep the ring as payment. I believe if you broke it off, you should give the ring back. There are exceptions, though--if he cheated on you and that's why you broke it off, then it's essentially his fault so you can keep the ring. If you broke it off because he was lying to you about who he is or other big things like finances or criminal history, then it's his fault and you keep the ring. And, if he was the one to break it off, you keep the ring. Otherwise, I think you should give it back.
You can always sue him for the money he owes you.
2007-03-27 14:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had read that a man went to court over a ring due to a broken engagement (the girl didn't want to give it back); the judge ruled that if the ring had been given as a gift ex: for her birthday, Christmas, etc then it was hers to keep; if it was for an engagement only then it was his. BUT! if he owes you money, you may need to get a lawyer in this case and ask his advice. I'm sure you're going through a difficult time as it is, I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-03-27 04:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by honey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been engaged twice and kept the ring after splitting (was married to one of them) because it was called off due to them and the way they treated me.
If you called it off you should give the ring back....but if he owes you money you should tell him that you are selling it to go toward the money he owes you. Sadly though new rings de-value very quickly. If you go to a high st jeweller/pawn shop you will only get about 10%- 20% off what it is worth
2007-03-27 22:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by cavviecath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise rings are actually not comparable to engagement rings. A promise ring is a hoop promising to stay actual to a minimum of one yet another. there remains no promise of marrying with a promise ring. An engagement ring is a hoop that symbolized that the two human beings conform to get married and plan a marriage in the close to destiny
2016-11-23 19:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by eich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to take this question to a court of law they would have to opt why it was that you broke up. Was it something he did that made you break up with him? Sounds as if this is the case. If so, then you would be within your right to keep the ring. If not, then even if he owed you money, you would have to give it back. The money matter would have to be taken up as another matter. Good thing you were smart enough to make the right choice of breaking up with him before making a mistake of marrying him.
2007-03-27 05:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Oregon, it is the law that if you break off the engagement it is his ring (unless you paid for it) But you might want to talk to a lawyer and tell him that this guy owes you money and the ring would settle the debt.....
2007-03-27 05:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You MUST give the ring back right away. It was not a gift in the regular sense, but rather symbolic of the promise of marriage.
This is TOTALLY SEPARATE from any money he may owe you; you have to deal with that separate from the ring. Maybe you can take him to small claims court.
2007-03-27 07:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should return the ring. He owes you money, but an engagement ring is the embodiment of a promise of marriage. No promise, no ring. I think you should cut your losses, give him his ring back, and never look back.
2007-03-27 04:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you broke it off so you should give it back but only if he asks and if he is willing to pay you the money he owes, that way everybody wins. If he refuses to give you the money then sell it and get the money that way, although you'll get very little for it unless you have the reciept
2007-03-27 04:48:39 · answer #11 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋