This guy I like I am pretty sure doesn't like me but all my friends think just the opposite. I hardly talk to him because he makes me nervous, we have the kind of relationship where I look up and he is totally starring at me and we meet eyes and we both look away.......then, my friends say he is starring at me all the time at lunch and crap, Then at the feild trips we go to, we allways ended up standing next to eachother, i thought it was just by accident, but my friends say they see him try to be near me. I wrote him a note and asked him if this was all true and he hasn't answered me yes or no, my friends think that it's because he's to afraid to tell me the truth. what do you think......i need your help and advice. thanks
2007-03-27 04:36:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHY DON'T YOU JUST ASK HIM.
2007-03-27 04:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The note didn't work. Now you ultimately have to go up to him and say, "Hi there! Did you get my note?" And, ask him your question again. If he starts stammering, etc...just gently grab his hand and say that its ok and that you aren't there to make him feel uncomforatable, that you were just interested in an answer...and smile...you can tell him that he doesn't need to give you an answer right away, but it would be nice to here something, either way, in the near future. Let his hand go and leave it at that....or he might give you an answer then and there. I can't say don't be nervous about rejection...we all are. But, you have to come to the conclusion that rejection is just a part of life...and "no" is not all that bad. You have to learn to just move on with a smile. Life is really to short to not risk rejection...and years down the road tell yourself, "I shoulda, I coulda, I woulda...."
You gotta be in it to win it, in the first place.
2007-03-27 04:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try confronting him face to face, just start asking him questions about what you want to know about him, and then you guys will start to trust each other more, and if he doesn't like you in that way then that's fine because there will be someone who will truly fight for you. And don't think that just because a guy looks at you means he is interested becuase I think thats the mistake a lot of girls commit, and it just ends up hurting our feelings becuase we find out it's not true.
But I wish yo uthe best of luck no matter what.
2007-03-27 04:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Little-one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going threw the same problem with a girl i like cause i am shy and i tried the note thing it doesnt work to well so the best thing to do is suck it up and talk to him in person about your feelings if he likes you he'll listen to what you have to say but the worst thing to do is just keep it to yourself because that gives him a chance to walk out of your life and it sux it happend to me i know it will be hard to but that is what i think you should do .....take advantage of the next chance you have because it could be your last.
2007-03-27 04:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by billy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww he totally likes you! everyone in the world is scared of rejection but would you rather be 40 and think "wow, im so glad i never took a chance with that guy" or take a chance that you might have some fun with him? put it this way - if a guy asked you out and you said no, you'd forget about it soon wouldnt you? dont worry about what he'l think. speak to him to his face or call him/give him a note with your number on. plus, tell him how you feel rather than ask how he feels - he might think you only want to know so you can laugh at him!
2007-03-27 04:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, Shyness.
Well it is a good sign that you are both shy but someone has to break the ice. At this stage i highly doubt you will be rejected.
The best i advice i can give you is to not listen to your friends, Go with your own flow. Try to do small things for him that make him know you care... but in a subtle way. It will make him feel good, and more open to you.
I hope this helps!
2007-03-27 04:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Travis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For what its worth, YES. HE LIKES YOU. Now, keep in mind that not only are you nervous but he is too. Also, hes as much afraid of rejection as you are. In fact, hes even more so. WHY ? Because, if he rejects you then your female friends will likely comfort and console you. BUT !!!! If you reject him, his "friends" will poke fun at him and that will only hurt him more. So, even though youll never completely illiminate the rejection factor, you and all other women have the home court advantage. Good luck.
2007-03-27 04:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, here is what i think. being attractive is as much about attitude as it is looks, guys want confident self secure women that adore them. that is just fact. so i sugest to you, become confident and if you like him, then go talk, and dont be affraid, being afraid is a turn off. be outgoing, if he is not into you, at least you'll know and you very well will make a new friend, who by the way may just lead you to more guys.
so i say go for it, but keep expectations low, and enjoy life, dont let it pass you by.
2007-03-27 04:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is afraid of rejection, or at the very least don't like it. But you will never know anything if you keep avoiding rejection. Also he might be afraid of rejection. Try working on being friends first and then see what happens.
2007-03-27 04:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to people like us rejection seems like the worst freakin thing in the world. and its prolly your first time tryin to ask this person out. i was in your situation when i was a bit younger , i never asked the girl out and she ran off and got fresh with some other guy. look the first time its really hard , but after u deal with your fears , u will see its not that bad , and u will be able to ask out guys for their numbers left and right , and it wont mean **** to you if they say no. so just break the ice.
2007-03-27 04:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being rejected. Concentrate instead on finding out whether you like spending time with him and whether you enjoy each other's company. Just talk to him like you would one of your girl friends and see how it goes. You may find out you have nothing in common! Looks can only take you so far.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 04:40:46 · answer #11 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋