My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 months. It's been a serious relationship, we've talked of our futures together, and I love him very much. For the past few months, it's been extremely rough. We've fought and broke up several times, and neither of us have been very happy. Now, he wants it to end, and I'm not ready. He says he's been dreading time with me and for the past couple weeks, we have not spent time together. I desperately want to put in one last effort, but he says that we've tried and there's no way. He says he still loves me and I definitely love him. But he says that he can't guarantee he will come back to me. I'm not strong enough to deal with this break up, even though it may be inevitable. Could there be a positive outcome of this break, or is it just going to end?
2007-03-27 04:31:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HONEY, THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS WAIT. DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO SHOW HIM YOU LOVE HIM. BUT IF THAT DON'T WORK DON'T WASTE ANYMORE OF YOUR TIME. FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE YOU BACK AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE THEM. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-27 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like it is going to end. If you come on so strong you will drive him away. You need to back off a bit and play like you want the break as much as he does. It is really, really hard to do because you think you will lose him and you might. But it is definate that you will lose him if you keep going after him full throtle. Don't call him for a while and let him see you out with someone else. There is no guarantee that it will work but it is obvious what you are doing now is not working so try it. Be a little mysterious and aloof towards him. Good luck!!
2007-03-27 04:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I haven't been in my relationship as long as you have but it's on the same level of seriousness. I initiated a breakup, then was persuaded to make it a break by my g/f when things got really rough. I feel on my part that it's over, but my heart won't let me let go despite everyone telling me to. So I've decided to use this break and see if it does anything. For you there could be a positive outcome of this break, but only if something changes...if nothing changes then you'll be right back where you started. It seems your boyfriend really does love you and is waiting for either you or him to step up and make a change...figure out if that's something you can do...or just move on with your life.
2007-03-27 04:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.Optimist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ARE strong enough to deal with this. think about this for a second...what if there is the perfect guy for you two blocks down the road, just sitting there, doing the same things you like to do, laughing at the same things you like to laugh at...and you have no idea he is there because you have been on an emotional roller coaster with the same guy for the past year. are you sure you love this guy? or is it lust? you both have wanted to break up....the hardest thing about that is figuring out if you truley loved him or if you were just "use to him being there".....If he is done with the relationship, save pride and face by saying you gave it your best and wish him the best.....now, be happy you aren't wasting any more of your life on this emotionally unstable relationship. the day you break up, go celebrate! for that day will be the first day endless and exciting possibilities.!...good luck!
2007-03-27 04:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a hint and break up with him. You can't make someone love you. At least you don't have to waste anymore time on this one and go find some guy who's crazy about you. There's pleanty of guys out there. And for the most part: Break=End of Relationship
2007-03-27 04:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by The Mullet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt want to be with you anymore then dont force him to. It will be worst for both of u. Talk to him once again and make the decision together. You need to remember how things were when u were not with him. Also, there are a lot of people out there, dont u think u can find someone that wants to be with u more than ur actual boyfriend?
At the end is ur decision and u got our support
2007-03-27 04:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by actnthink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about what happened to your relationship but I guess you really need to take a break from each other. It could be a way to reassess your relationship and your respective lives (like no time for other things) and to reset your priorities. Maybe you're getting to much into each other's nerves to the point that you are no longer growing as persons or maybe you have lost your time for yourselves. Since he stated that he MIGHT not come back to you, please bear in your mind of that possibility and be prepared for that. I know it's going to be difficult knowing that the person we loved the most might no longer belong to us but, we should be prepared for it. I'll hope for the best for both of you.
2007-03-27 04:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Josette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know until you try. Sounds like he has made up his mind. Besides, you really don't want to continue being miserable. If he is away from you for awhile he may find out that he really does love you and can't live without you. Or he may find someone else that makes him happy. You never know. Maybe there's already someone else in the picture.
2007-03-27 04:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is a maybe, but you have to prepare yourself because sounds like your boyfriend is wanting to explore other options out there. It's nothing new and it's a part of dating, but you have to be the strong one and know that he's not the only boy out there when the sea is full of fish it's up to you to toss a line and see what you get. You'll be ok
2007-03-27 04:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are strong enough. You lived before he came along, you will live after he's gone. He wants out. Open the cage door and set him free. Then don't call, don't email, don't look for him. If he comes back to you, then great. If not, then you have the chance to find a new, good life. Let him go.
2007-03-27 04:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things are just not meant to be. You have to realize that you trying to make him stay will only make things worst. If you two can't make it through the hard times, you don't need to be together. Just prepare yourself, don't try to fix something if it's not fixable. I think you should move on. The rate you're going, you'll only find yourself getting hurt even worst. Whatever you do, don't force this man to stay.
2007-03-27 04:39:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋