I've got the 'george' from Grey's Anatomy thing going on. Am I just being too nice, or what?
2007-03-27 04:11:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aaaw Jack,
I never quite understood how this seems to happen to some guys. My guess is that you present yourself in a neutral, "shoulder to cry on" way.
You have to start actually making a cognizant effort to flip the switch over to the "datable guy" category. Hold some gazes a little longer than usual, and flirt a little more.
Practice using your eye contact. Practice a flirty smile. Ask these girls out on a date and show them a different side to you. You are there in the caring friendly way...its time to take it to the next level.
You can so do this. You're an attractive guy so the rest should be a piece of cake!
2007-03-27 04:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I for one like nice guys. I don't mean spineless, clingy guys, but genuinly nice guys.
Unfortunately, sometimes these "nice" guys get caught up in not so nice girls that end up stringing them along under the false hope that is the friend zone. It's easy for this to happen because the "nice" guy lets it happen.
Are you tempted to use your niceness as a way of making people feel as if they owe you? Geniunly nice guys are kind and considerate without expecting anything in return. If you are doing it to be manipulative, many girls can pick up on that and can't help but feel less attracted to you.
If you find yourself saying things like:
"I don't care. I want to go to whatever restaurant you'd like to go to."
"Sure, I'd be happy to see [insert terrible movie here] with you." (after just mentioning how much you hate that type of movie)
You might just be the kind of nice guy that isn't so nice afterall.
If it bothers you when others say these things, why should girls be any different? You don't have to be a jerk to take charge and let your date know that you're going to San Pazos at 7:00 and for drinks afterward (if you had a good time).
Also, if you're avoiding any kind of romantic gesture (a nice kiss or holding her hand) and having a lot of day-time dates, it doesn't really set the mood for a "more-than-friends" relationship.
Best of luck!
2007-03-27 04:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by HallamFoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are the women you like are not looking for relationships. That's what happened with me. Don't become a jerk in the hopes of getting some girl. Be patient and the right one will come to you.
2007-03-27 04:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, do no longer say that. you will on no account get a woman that way. self belief is often key! purely circulate and confer with ladies! yet! You gotta be sure you enable the lady be attentive to your involved from the beginning up, or you will get caught interior the buddy zone. on the least ACT like your involved. provide them an beginning so they might recieve "attainable" vibes. additionally persist with your ladies, they might help out lots besides. Ask them for help.
2016-10-20 01:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let a girl know you're interested from the start or you'll fall into the friend zone! don't sit back and wait for the right moment you gotta go for it!
2007-03-27 04:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls know better
2007-03-27 04:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.i want to be your girlfriend.
2007-03-27 04:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blah blah blah no offense but i am really sleepy.
2007-03-27 04:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋