are you a middle child do you get left out and have to fend for yourself?

Answer 1

I am the middle child but I am also the only girl so I kind of got treated a bit better than my two brothers. I could get away with a lot more!!

Answer 2

I just got the biggest complement on my middle child yesterday. My friend said that all mine appear not to have any of the usual syndromes! I dont' know why these even exist but I guess when you have had your first you give it everything by the time your on the second your too nackard and although they get the love they don't get what the first child got. Mine are all treated the same and I have special time with all of them individually and make them feel like they are top! I don't have a favourite. I am sure there are a lot of people who do feel left out but perhaps that's because you were the more independat one anyway and not the fact you were the middle child. Parents do their best and shoud be forgiven for not being perfect.

In my family I was the youngest with two brothers. The middle one is estranged as my parents treated him differently to the other two due to a medical condition. The eldest has loads of hangups because I was allowed to do things he wasn't. However, what he forgets is that he didn't want to go to clubs and I always told my parents where and what I was getting up to where he didn't. There are always reasons for everything!

Answer 3

The oldest is not always dad's favorite, and middle mom's favorite. Every family is different. There ARE common character traits in where you are in the family, and alot DO apply to mine.

I'm middle with an older sister and a younger sister. We're all in our 20's now, but my younger sis still gets treated like the baby. She was never the forgotten one, I was:)

They say oldest is the leader, more likely to be neorotic(spell?) and critical of the parents, feeling they know more than the parents do. I saw this with my sister. She was VERY critical of my mom, they fought all the time. But the oldest gets pressured the most to help out, act the most grown up, like they should always know better.

The middle is usually the person to go along with everyone else, the people pleaser, trying to make everyone else happy. Can be ignored b/c they don't demand attention like the oldest or youngest. That's definitely me. I'll be talking at the table, and I get talked over and interrupted all the time. And I do go out of my way alot to keep the peace, and do things for everyone else. Middle children can be likely to act out and rebel against the parents b/c they feel they're not getting enough attention at home.

My younger sister is still the baby in everyone's eyes, and it is hurting her in a way now that she's older, she has a harder time doing things for herself, she's used to others stepping in and fixing her problems. She's gettting better, but there are still times I step in when it is something she could do herself. She gets the most things like cars, money, etc. I love her dearly, but she is the most self-centered in some ways.

So there's good and bad to each spot, you just have to take the good with the bad.

Answer 4

I'm grown now, but yes, I was the middle child. And yes, I was left out and often felt forgotten about. It was sad, I never felt valued, I was never allowed to participate in activities, I was ignored and if I begged for attention was told that I was being stupid and feeling sorry for myself. I was often criticized, something the never would have done to my sisters. And I was blamed for every thing that happened, my sister would hit me, then tell my Mom I hit her and my Mom would smack me, it sucked! I hope that's not the situation with you, if it is I'm sorry. It's better when you are grown, then you can have your own life, do what you want, and find friends that can see the value in the person you are. Just don't give up on your dreams, I gave up on some of mine because I didn't feel important enough to follow them, that's my biggest regret.

Answer 5

i'm a middle child and yes, i got left out but then my brother was older and didn't want his kid sister hanging around him and his friends, and my younger sister was the stay at home with mum type so i spent hours cycling or roaming the countryside alone. i was as much loved and cared for as the others and never minded being alone, if anything it taught me independence and i spent a lot of time thinking which is hard to do when there are always people around.

Answer 6

I am not but I know someone who is. He has been left out to fend for himself and now has a strange relationship with his parents.

Answer 7

No

i'm the eldest by 2 minutes and i'm pretty much left out to sink or swim.

I thought about rebelling to get some attention but it's not worth wrecking my life for them.

I can look after myself so i've resolved to try and be friends with my parents which so far it is working

Answer 8

My bf is a middle child and its kinda that same way. He has a very weird relationship with his parents, hes constantly being critized about everything, and cant do anything right. but his brother and sister are just great!!

Answer 9

No I'm first born so i don't no what that makes me!!

My bf's a Middle child but i think he gets spoiled. but i think the parent think because you in the middle your in a snug position...you have your older brother/sister to look up to and you can give advice to your younger brother/sister also you wont make the same mistakes as your bothers/sisters so that's a plus.

Answer 10

yes i am a middle child and was always treated differently than my other 2 sibs....my youngest sib got spoiled alot and my eldest sib did too but me...i got nothing...it's still like that now...it's like i don't exsist in this family...oh well i have my own family now and i treat them all equally