I broke up with my ex gf for family/cultural/religious reasons and the tension that was causing in the relationship. We remained good friends and I visited her to chat and kept her company at parties. Being just friends hurt a lot. Few weeks later I realised it was wrong and closed minded to have listened to my family/culture/religion and I had been misguided by these and hadn't been true to myself. I then talked a lot with my parents after breakup (who were against the relationship at the time) and they finally started to agree that I should have stayed with her.
Anyway I went back to her and explained this to her. I begged her over a month to take me back. Finally she explained that she liked me as a friend but not a boyfriend and sympathised with what had happened, but no longer had any romantic feelings for me and saw me just as a friend. She said she really wants to be friends but I love her and will get hurt again when she gets with someone else. How should I deal with it?
2007-03-27 03:49:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just will have to you broke up with her because of your family you put your family first and had no regards of how it may have made her feel, so you will have to deal with it.
2007-03-27 03:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though this may sound hard....you have to cut off the relationship. You can't be friends with someone you're still in love with. At some level, you'll still be trying to get back with her...and she'll know that.
You can be friends with exes, but it usually takes some time and it usually takes both of you being happy with someone else.
Sorry ... it sounds like this situation sucks. Hopefully you and your family will learn from this experience.
2007-03-27 10:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by goingloopy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this experience as a life lesson. You can't live your life pleasing your parents, because in the end you have live with yourself and your decisions so make sure that those decisions are made by you. You may have lost this girl because of your parents or maybe you would have lost her anyway because she would have lost interest at some point. But now this can help you realize that when you want something in life you fight for it (as long as it is morally right).
2007-03-27 10:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you have to help yourself with this, stop trying to win her back if she does not like you anymore. instead, look for another girl and start dating.
2007-03-27 10:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to fight for her....show her how much you care for her...she'll come around.
2007-03-27 10:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by beonlyme11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋