once a cheater always a cheater?

Question

Is it wrong to ask someone who is dating potential if they ever cheated on an ex-girlfriend? I think that would be important knowledge in deciding whether I would want to date them? Is it true that once a cheater always a cheater?

Answer 1

No I don't think it's wrong at all to ask, but are you truly expecting an honest answer?

Answer 2

Well Berry Luv
That is not wrong to want to know if your possible boyfriend is a cheater, cause it would break your heart if you were cheated on and i feel the same. I don't know how you would go about asking them, maybe ask one of his friends, You could ask him directly but chances are he wouldn't tell you if he cheats or not so that could be pointless, but a valid question all the same. Once a cheater always a cheater definitely applies to most people that cheat, guys and girls both cheat. Some people just cheat once and realize it was a mistake and feel guilty about it, some people think its o.k. to cheat as long as they don't get caught . If they have cheated before it is more likely that they will do it again. Keep in mind that there will always be temptations out there so when you find someone i hope he really loves you and treats you with respect and doesn't cheat. good luck hey : )

Answer 3

I have cheated on a lot of my ex g/f not all of them... The way I see it is that until now "i am 24 years old" I never had an intent of going into something more serious than just dating someone even though with the last g/f I felt like I was wrong many times something would tell me that she was just not the right one... I think at young age we have to experiment and only that way we will know who we are and what exactly we want from our partner... If we don't have enough experience I don't think we will be able to make the right decision and really find and know that we found the right person when time comes... At this moment I can't say I am in love but there is a girl that I think about a lot and I have never feel this way for another girl and even though it has been a month since last time I saw her she is still the last person I think about before I go to bed and first person I think about in the morning when I wake up... The last thing I want know is go out with another girl... I just want to have her next to me but I cant not for another month at least... :)... what I am trying to say is that if he thinks that you are special enough he will never do anything to loose you or what you have together... Is there any way to find out if you are that special for him... ? NO there is not... Just go with you instinct...

Answer 4

It's always good to find out about a person's background. But, the fact if they've ever cheated in a previous relationship shouldn't matter. Even if they did, that doesn't mean they'll do the same to you. Just as well as if they have never did it, what's the chances that they never will do it to you? I think that's something you should think about because there's no guarantee that they will tell you the truth if you ask anyway. All you need to do is focus on doing your part in the relationship so you wont have to worry about what they'll do behind your back. You may past up tons of good guys if you hold what they did in the past against them. Just remember, you can't stop a guy from doing what they want to do.

Answer 5

It's true that once a cheater, always a cheater. However, you must realize that cheaters are liars too. Who is to say they will tell you the truth? I would be friends with a guy first and get to know him before deciding if he is dating material or not. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 6

Though more often than not it is true that once a cheater, always a cheater but still I don't think thats its great way to start a relationship by having doubts like the one u mentioned.

If you are really really concerned then do a background check on the guy before u start dating him.

Answer 7

I asked my spouse it, and he told me the truth. He was with his girlfriend for 6 years, and he found out she was sleeping with another man, so he went out and slept with another woman. And thats then broke up with his girlfriend the next time he saw her. He said he needed the confidence boost to do it. And he felt bad even if the relationship was over, it wasnt officially over.

And it was honest and I respected him for that.

I dont know about once a cheater always a cheater. It depends on the situation. I mean if your with someone for one month and cheat on them, its completely different then being married to a woman for 5 years and cheating on her. The first one wasnt love, it was most likely an immature relationship or something. You cant judge cheating on that.

Either way I think its a good question to judge character.

Answer 8

That a great question, but it might scare them off. And for the once a cheater always a cheater, its not always true. You have to give someone a chance.

Answer 9

it would be a cheek. You have to trust the person you wish to date, and that is definitely starting out on the wrong foot. Besides, I don't believe in once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 10

it is true. once a cheater always a cheater. my dad was married cheated on her married the girl he was seeing cheated on her and told me a couple days ago hes going to ask her to marry him. and pretty much the same with all his friends

Answer 11

Yes you do have the right to know how his past relationships ended and wether or not he cheated, but if he did cheat it should not weigh down your decisions to date him!!!

I don't beleive in once a cheat always a cheat, anything is possible...if he really wants to be with you he will change his ways to make you happy as well as make himself happy BECAUSE he is with you!!!