My sister in law thought that there was hidden money stashed away in her mother's account. An additional inheiritance to be split between her 3 "own" children that didn't have to be split with the 5 step kids. It wouldn't have been much. Mom did not have much.
She wanted my husband and her other brother to help her fight the executrix of the estate, to get their private windfall.
Unfortunately, her brothers had not heard of a private fund, and they refused to fight for it. They just told the executrix to pay all the bills outstanding, and then give them their equal share, divided 8 ways.
This was as 12 years ago. Even now, if we send this sister in law a birthday card, she sends it back. If we phone, she hangs up on us. She didn't even go to the brother's funeral a few years later.
Is there any way we can reach her? My husband would like to heal the rift.
2007-03-27 03:36:39 · 7 answers · asked by kiwi 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Best way is to pray for her. Believe in the power of prayer and it will work. Nothing is impossible with God. Be specific with your prayer. List it in your notebook to when answered.. list the date and tell others about it.
2007-03-27 03:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything you can do.. she has got to get over it and understand that family and memories with those family members are more important than money, but with gruges the only thing is the person holding the gruge has to give it up.. and realize it is not worth holding onto.. she is missing out on alot because of possible money she could have had.. she is the only one that can make it end.. Love and family are way more important than money.. (if there was any, it would probably already be spent by now anyway). Just keep reaching out even if it hurts and hopefully sooner or later she will realize what she is doing to herself and her family.
2007-03-27 03:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing brings out the ugliness in a family like wedding and funerals. Unfortunately hate has all but consumed her if she does not respond to simple gestures. If your husband wants a relationship with his sister it is going to take a long time. If you can get her and your husband in a face to face situation it may help. At the very least, she may yell and scream but it could start the lines of communication. Good luck and hang in there!
2007-03-27 04:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Noire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think 12 years is long enough, but sometimes people just refuse to "get over it"....
my sisters and i don't speak anymore, and all since the death of our mother.
sad thing is, we were all relatively close before...
2007-03-27 03:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate that as soon as someone dies they are just worried about the stuff. I hope she gets over herself, but there are some people that you cant help.
Good luck
2007-03-27 04:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is not yours if you continue to make an effort to include her you have done your part you cant change a bitter person her hatred will only serve to hurt her- don't let it hurt you and your family she's not worth it. good luck, god bless.
2007-03-27 03:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by hyde 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's a sad case
2007-03-27 05:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋