what would you do in my situation? advice pls!!?

Question

Ok so here is my situation, My bf will make me do stuff I don’t want to do – literally like he will force me (like holding me down and stuff) and I’m really tired of it, I hate the way he doesn’t listen to me, I could say no or stop or I don’t want to until I’m blue in the face (but if I say ouch he’ll stop) and he wont listen. His excuse is “because I’m the guy” and I’m fed up with it. I was about to tell him that I don’t want to see him anymore but I found out that I’m pregnant (b/c he yet again made me do something I didn’t want to do). Now he wants me to marry him and move in with him but the thing that I’m worried about is he said the other night “when we move into my house I’m going to get whatever I want” and I know what that means…

My problem is I don’t want my child growing up w/o a father, I never had one and I don’t that to be my child but I don’t think things will get any better (probably worse) if I do marry him/move in. I want the best for my child, also I think he would probably get mad if I didn’t want to marry him. So what should I do? What would you do in my situation?

Thanks for the advice!

im tired of fighting him, when i do i just end up with bruises b/c im strong but hes like 4 times stronger then me b/c he works at a gym and is a bodybuilder.

Answer 1

Don't marry him. Things will get worse. He is raping you. You should press charges against him. If that doesn't work get a restraining order. You don't want your child growing up without a father,but it is better than the situation you are now in. Think about what he may do to the child as he/she gets older.

Answer 2

Hi

It sounds like he is very controlling and craves attention . No one in the world can make you do something you don't want to do . It sounds like abuse in the making .

I agree with you that every child deserves a father but in most cases today some women prefer to raise their children by themselves I know I did a lot better by myself . Staying with him for the child and being miserable and unhappy will not make things better .

You answered your own question it will only get worse if you stay . The choice is yours . There is nothing worse then having a man / woman who claim they love you but constantly ignores your feelings , but at the same time they want to be heard .

Take care
C

Answer 3

you say you want the best for your child...
then get the he** away from this guy. .. a "father" for a child isn't necessarily just the guy who got you pregnant, that's a "sperm donor"...
If you have a daughter, do you want her to see the way you're treated , and think it's okay for guys to treat her like that ?
or if you have a son, and he sees it, do you want him to grow up and continue and treat women that way ?
Sounds like God was giving you a signal to get out of this realtionship.. who cares if he'll "be mad" if you don't want to marry him.. start thinking for YOURSELF, don't think about how he WANTS it to be... you are going to have a child.. so think about that, you can find someone who actually loves you and your child,is more mature, won't "force" you to do things... and will treat you both with respect .. this guy doesn't seem to fit the bill.

Answer 4

well i think you will prove to be a good single mother. i dont think you can live with this and also your husband will have bad effects on the child
ithink he loves thats why he wants you to get married but i dont think you and your child will be happy with a father like this
but are you financially secure to give best to your child