I don't know how to let a guy pursue me. Someone I like, but I don't know how to let him make the moves. I'm used to being aggressive and overwhelming. But that always chases guys away. A guy I'm attracted to, I run into him now & then, we smile, make small talk, he asks how my wkend was, where I'm from, my instincts tell me he's attracted to me. But he's not hounding me or coming around much. Maybe it's because we work at the same firm? I'm trying to be cool & I'm doing good but I wonder are guys shy? Do they move slow when it comes to a girl they like? Shouldn't he be trying to get my telephone number and talk to me more?
(this was posted before but i think i did something wrong)
2007-03-27 03:29:22 · 5 answers · asked by RuffDiamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to add, when I do run into this guy I'm very nice to him, I'm considerate and I'm generous (with the candy on my desk lol)
2007-03-27 04:15:08 · update #1
This is a good question because I'm this type of guy. There are two types of approaches.
Hit and runs and wait and See's.
To you, he may want to wait and see if somebody else comes into the picture, that will tell him if you want him or just want to have a boyfriend or he may have deeper concerns on his mind and just wants a friend right now.
He may be shy but even shy guys get what they want when they are ready. Once he's convinced that you are not reckless he'll ask you for your number.
If I really like you, There is no rush about anything. If you really want him you can wait till he's sure about you. One thing about me, there will be no sex if I really am serious about you,that is the worse distraction from a love worth while if you are getting to know each other. The reason there are different levels of relationships is because there is an ultimate Goal.
If you are my candidate for the ultimate relationship, I'm not going to treat you like a fling. I will build a strong bond over time, there will be time for plenty of sex when you are at the right level. Meanwhile,there are other ways of expressing affection.
In the mean time, you are making yourself look impatient,desperate and undisciplined.
Those are red flags to a good man.
If you really like him, show him your qualities as a woman, that will keep you on his mind when he thinks about dating.
Last point, You see him at work? Some of us don't believe in buliding our relationships on the job.
2007-03-27 04:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ophiuchus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me this happened many times to me before. But yes guys are a little slow. And as hard as it is, it takes time and patience. You have to let him come to you, because if you go to him you might sound to anxious. Use body language and dress sexy around him (not to revealing), and he should get the picture. It takes time but he'll come. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-27 03:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by gina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes guys can be shy, perhaps he isn't pursuing you because he works with you- that can lead to some unpleasant situations and maybe he wants to avoid that you probably can't lasso this guy and have good results try cultivating a good friendship first... perhaps it will work out. be patient. good luck
2007-03-27 03:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by hyde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of guys r slow .... they ll not take ur cell no. .... coz they r afraid
if u really wana get tht guy .... tell him 2 mail me
2007-03-27 03:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Rockd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we are shy and slow at times
2007-03-27 03:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋