as the government and schools seem to get the blame for kids bad behaviour where i live you can see teenagers boys and girls out till 11-12oclock even on schooldays surely their parents must wonder what their up to?. is it the same in your neighbour hoods
2007-03-27 03:25:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes it's the same, I just think that parents don't seem to care anymore what their kids get up to. When I used to be a teenager I was made to do after school activities such as taking dance classes etc.. this kept me off the streets and kept me busy not that I would have ever wanted to roam the streets after dark at a young age.
I really do wish parents opened their eyes and did something about their unruly kids, it's just getting ridiculous now.
2007-03-27 03:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Pearl 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Parents should always be held fully responsible for their kids behaviour. The government can only introduce laws such as curfews but do we want that? We are a nanny state as it is.
Perhaps parents should apply curfews to keep kids off the streets.
No 15 year old or younger should be out after 9pm unless attending a function of some valid description. And they should be in bed by 9-30 they do need their sleep.
More difficult with older kids, but they should never be allowed to hang around street corners at night.
2007-03-29 22:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by spikey59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its a community thing...
it involves the community, society, government, teachers, authourities...
None is with kids 24h a day, none can do everything... ie a parent does not have the workshop and science lab equipment the school has, the school teachers cant do all the hugging and cuddling and taking out the parents can do.
The school can't police the streets or fight gangs to keep kids away from them.
The government is needed to compulsory force things like a dutch style sex ed initiative.
Likewise neither the parents or schools can pay for large scale nationwide initatives.
Likewise its no good if each undermines the other.
What you need is all working together, all supporting each others, all covering all aspects of kids and teeange growth and maturity including support from business and government in terms of trainee and apprenticeship positions.
And realise that the rules are not always right.
Example the no teenagers in nightclubs.
Well the rock clubs I used to go in were trouble and pretty much drug free.
The overiding culture was to let yourself go and be yourself but not to hurt others and very much taught values of looking out for one another.
There was no support for this thug respect culture and it was very much the older stronger members looked adfter the younger rookie ones.
Common dress whilst giving individual style allowed expression but a feeling of belonging and security and an identiy.
A dance floor gives the opportunity to work out stress in a dance floor and to compete to be the best dancer and get fit.
Plus the bands gave inspiration and something to aspire to.
The community thing would be to get the nightclubs to help with anti pregnancy and drug ed and councelling support for the teenagers not to crack down on the teenagers in them.
As really it was not only keeping them out of trouble but teaching them a culture of looking out for others.
And thats not rubbish is absolute truth. That was waht the kinds of places I went to were like.
Also helping shy people get involved as well.
Helping boys and girls to meet and get together and form realtioship. Give a safe environment for them to kiss and cuddle.
In a way their parents may not be able to.
Likewise the government cant do a anti pregnancy initiative if the parents withdrae their kids and dont support it.
And the parents need to make sure kids do homework.
The school is also usued to seeing how each age group thinks and acts
Whilst a parent is only used to seeing the kid doing what they did when younger.
etc
Ie its the whole of socisty that needs to work as one.
thats what the dutch do
Thats why they are successful
They aint all fighting and compeating.
Hence socailistic systems work better society wise
2007-03-27 04:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of problems stem from our government`s double standards. Eg - they lay the law down about what punishments we can give our kids - usually none - cos everything seems to be covered by some ridiculous human rights act-THEN-they say WE are responsible when the kid does wrong BUT when we try to come down on the kid they slap us up the head again and say YOU DO THAT AND YOU`LL GO TO PRISON ! And we go round and round....
Just about everything is umberella`d with the child abuse crap. You try giving your wayward teenager a clout-or as someone else suggested-locking em in their room - you`ll soon have the police knocking on your door !
Look at schools - if a kid truants what happens ? They get excluded for a week or so ! Another week off ! Great stuff ! And what about the parents ? Well they get marched off to prison -while the kids run riot - again. I tell you wot, i bet some of them parents must breathe a sigh of relief when that prison door slams shut-must be like goin on holiday !
So - you can go to prison if you try to dicipline your kids - and you can go to prison if you don`t.... what do you do ?
2007-03-27 05:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wished i could say no it's not like that where i live but that would be a lie coz it is just like that it's 12:17 am here and i can still hear and see teenagers playing and messing around in the kiddy play park that's just outside to the left of my front room window, as for the parents of these teenagers well they either don't care or are in the pub.
2007-03-29 12:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by LJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 56 when I was a teenager there was nothing much my parents could do with me.Teenagers are not any different
maybe they go to extremes however eventually they will grow out of it.Then the next generation will spring up & the parents yet again will get the blame.I would never let my parents take the blame for my hot head.
2007-03-27 03:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the "old day"s people left school at 15 /16 and went into work had apprenticeships etc in the steel industry , railways shipbuilding etc labour intensive industries. so plenty of jobs about/ So they didn't have the time or the energy to roam the streets till 11-12 o'clock.
these days have changed now a lot of kids dint have any focus in there lives/ dont play sports / dont go to classes/ dont have hobbies so they hang about
very difficult for parents alone to shoulder all the responsibility, for teenagers that age they can only go so far.
as for teenagers 13/14 different story. parents should be responsible /kids shouldn't be out till 11/12 o'clock
2007-03-27 03:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes the parents should be responsible for there children's behaviour and their schooling. These days some parents just want ther children out of the way so they can do what they want its like they want the kids but not the responsibility
2007-03-27 03:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by outrun 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is but i think that some parents just dont bother because they dot have affective reign over there kids and dont seem to dicipline
i have to be by the time it gets dark 7.30 at the moment but most my friends are out till like 9
2007-03-27 05:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by kt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes parents ARE ultimately responsible for their children!
There are curfews where I live. I don't know what it is for what age but if you are under 18 and caught by the police out without your parents after curfew they drive you home.
2007-03-27 03:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋