It was annocuned last night that my bro and his girlfriend (of 5 years) are having a baby... there both 21... I really feel he's making a big mistake... as I don't trust this girl one bit...
Her younger sister is 5 months pregnat and her brother's girlfriend is about to drop anytime soon!!!
I feel my bro's trapped.... he's been ropped into it without realising!!!
GRRRR
2007-03-27 03:18:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's been with her for 5 years. If he didn't care about her he would not be with her. It's his life, his business. Just be happy for him.
2007-03-27 03:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your mind he may be making a mistake but it's a little to late to do anything about it, the baby is coming and it's something that you will just have to get use to. My boyfriend and I had our first child when I was 20 years old and we are still happy and in Love 6 years later. We had only been together for 2 months when i got pregnant so you should feel happy for your brother that he waited 5 years to have a baby. Yes 21 in young and having a baby is very hard but every time they look at that baby they will know in their heart that it was worth it and surprisingly you will to!
2007-03-27 03:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by sidaca02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you wondering if your brother and girlfriend should have this baby or consider abortion? Because that's really the only thing that can be influenced by anyone's opinion at this point.
Everybody's different - a five year relationship does indicate a high degree of committment to each other, and 21 is young, but not too young to become a parent. The issue is going to be how they are going to welcome this baby and raise him/her, and whether or not your brother is going to step up to parenthood, or just be the sperm donor.
There is truth in the old proverb, "It takes a village to raise a child." Now is the time for you to step up and become a positive role model for your new nephew or niece.
Oh, and the rest of her family's pregnancies -- they are none of your business.
2007-03-27 03:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Zinnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the other point of view, don't judge first. If your brother cares for her, maybe she's worth it to him. I was only 21 when I found out I was pregnant. My husband was a year younger.
Needless to say, since we were only together for about 3 months, his parents wanted him to get a paternity test b/c they didn't know me, and I went along with it b/c I had nothing to hide. His sister didn't like me, but I didn't care b/c she didn't even KNOW me.
Now we have 4 kids, been married for almost 5 years, and his family says i'm the best thing that has ever happened to him.
Give her a chance. She didn't get pregnant by herself you know. Your brother was there too!!!! So don't completely blame her. That's an immature way to be about it. Your brother is responsible for his actions. I highly doubt she forced him into bed with her.
For all you know, she may be exactly what he needs. My husband is a great father, and I gave him his space back them, because I knew I loved him, but didn't want him to think I was having the baby just to be with him. We stayed friends througout my pregnancy, it was very hard for me, but I did it for him.
You need to understand your brother is a grown up, even if he is a young one. And it takes 2 to tango, how would you feel if you wound up pregnant from your boyfriend and his family blamed you??
2007-03-27 03:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are concerned about your brother, but he has been with this girl for 5 years and if she was trying to trap him I think she would have done this a long time ago. Just remember that just because they are having a baby together doesn't mean that your brother has to stay with her if he is unhappy although he does need to be a father to the baby and help take care of it that is as much his responsibility as hers.
2007-03-27 03:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is 21 and an adult old enough to make his own decisions..I don't think that anyone has forced him to sleep with his girlfriend (so how is it a trap)..If your brother has slept with his girlfriend and she is now pregnant then your brother need's to take responsibility for HIS actions and take care of his child.Your brother has been with this girl for 5yrs so he obviously trusts her and has feelings for her.It is not your job to tell your brother what to do.Your brother is not trapped he is an adult and HE chooses to be with this girl whether you like her or not..Like I said there is no trap your brother has not been forced to stay with this girl for the past 5yrs and sleep with her..
2007-03-27 03:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea whether your brother is making a mistake or not... just be SUPPORTIVE of him, and please, don't diss him over this... or be critical. he has enough on his plate.
His girlfriend didn't become pregnant by herself, and if he didn't use protection, i'm sure he knows that babies can be the result of such practice. If he doesn't realize sex produces babies by now, he has a problem.
Sometimes our adult relatives do things that we wonder about, but it is your brother's life, and he is going to have to live it. Time will tell if it's a "mistake"... we all make them.
Meanwhile, take care of YOU...
2007-03-27 03:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have no way of truly knowing the motives of others, so simply we should not judged them. It takes two to tango, so
IF your brother didn't want this he should of used protection to
prevent it. Be his friend and there for him not a source of contention in this relationship. We all have the right to make
our own mistakes, If they are mistakes we are the ones that
live with them....so be his friend and there for whatever.
2007-03-27 03:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that it's still young at 21 to have a child. But as long as they're happy you can try and be supportive as well. Try to keep in mind that she didn't get pregnant by herself and unfortunately he can have a say in what she decides to do, but the ultimate decision is going to be hers.
2007-03-27 03:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have been together 5 years, so he must know what he is doing.
2007-03-27 03:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋