About a week a ago, my girl friend started to have bad things happen to her. Her car broke down and her mother started having heart problems. During that time, she needed time to get through this and told me not to call her but she'll call me. Well, since then she's called a few times and I have been blocked out. I haven't even seen her since then. I gave her space, but it bothers me not to see her. But today I talked to her mother because my gf was asleep from a night of 3rd shift. She said my gf got her a new car but, her mom said that she has a tumor.
I know this is a big deal, but when a girl is going through a problem like this, with her mother finding out she has a tumor, will the girl push alot of people away during this time? Why is she pushing me away? Is this normal? How can I be supportive during this time? What can I do for her mother?
2007-03-27 03:10:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very normal, seriously. I think it's important for women to feel like they can handle their own business, so when major challenges arise, they want to get through them by themselves. Just be supportive when you do talk to her and make sure you remind her you're there for her if she'd like but then let her decide for herself. If you push now, you will push her away.
2007-03-27 03:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she really is going through a hard time right now. Well nobody can control that but what you can do is be there for her. Even though she's kinda pushing you away, what you can do is the next time you talk to her. Tell her, baby i love you and I know you are going through somethings right now but god isn't gonna give you anything you can't handle. Remember that, it's gonna get worst before it gets better and just always, always know that I am here for you no matter what. Call me anytime, anywhere and I'm there. You don't have to go through this alone, but when you need space just tell me and I am gonna give it to you. Offer you endless support and emotional help. You are pretty much helpless at this point so just be there for her and let her know you are there for her. Send text messages, emails and voices messages but when she does call you, make sure you answer. Be there for her, give her mom get well cards, balloons, take your girlfriend to church and pray with her or a dinner or something to relax. Whatever works for you in you living situation or standards you know because you are still living your life in the process attending work/school or whatever through out the day so be there until she calls, because she will. Believe me, she will. And she will love you more and appreciate you more later when this all works itself out and realize that you were there for her the whole time. I hope things get better with her and family. God bless.
2007-03-27 03:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl friend is grieving right now. She needs time alone and you must not push. She will contact you when everything finally sinks in.
She is over whelmed with what is on her plate and can not put any energy into a friendship.
There is nothing you can do to help her. She will talk when she is ready.......
As far as her mom, once you and your friend have hooked up again, go over and help her with little chores around the house. Sh e does not want your sympathy in fact that will upset your friend, you have to act as normal as you can. She will talk to you about her mother when she can.
Once you are hanging around their house again , be helpful, carrying in the groceries, taking out the trash and just being pleasant. If you try to hard they will feel badly,
Let it be for now and sit back... don't pester her....
2007-03-27 03:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunter, the only thing you can do is just be there for your girl and her Mother if they want to talk. Yes it is normal for people to push away the ones they love when things like this happen to them. The only thing you can do is be supportive and wait it out.
2007-03-27 03:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by silverfox13007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal she needs her own space. she has a tumor for god sakes. Just wait and be supportive. That's the best thing u can do now. She would probably be really thankful. She wouldn't have to worry about your comforts or anything.
2007-03-27 03:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its completely normal for her to push people away. shes having problems she needs to deal with. just lay off but be sure to be there for her if she ever needs anything.
2007-03-27 03:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by heyheyxcutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sweet...... Everyone deals with grief in their own way. It sounds like she wants to retreat into her own to deal with it.
Just give reminders that you are there for her when she needs you. I hope she realizes what a sweet caring friend she has in you. :)
Hang in there..this too shall pass.
2007-03-27 03:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋