Hey read this, what is up with him??

Question

i broke up with my now 5-year bf a year ago, i told him i needed space because he was too protective of me and we needed time to discover ourselves and what we really wanted in life since we started with our relationship too early [15]. after a month, i had news that he was dating, before that he tried to win me back but i din't agree to get back together because i was too busy with school and a guy in school who was sort of courting me then made me somewhat forget my ex. after a month again, i had news that my ex already found a girl he liked after all of the flings he had also with other girls. came my internship, i was less busy then and the guy who was courting me kind of lie lowed on me, he went on vacation and i was back on being alone, but i had friends of course and my some boys were also interested with me during my internship. despite that, it was the time that i realized that i missed him, and wanted him back into my life. since we still had comm'n, what i did was asked him but after 4months, things weren't getting better again, i was the one who decided we should take different paths again. i got busy with my graduation and finding a new job and after a month again, i had news she got back with the same girl again. i got really hurt because i felt like i was not loved, we had good times and i dint expect he would get back together with that same girl he was with in school. i tried to move on and it was really hard for me, i cried everyday and everytime he went online with yahoo, i talk to him, most of the time he ignored me, so what i thought was he already moved on.. after 3months or so i realized that i was also already moving on, i dint start dating yet but was halfway thru the process of moving on. 2months passed, we met on a friend's wedding, we were ok then but after a week when he went online again, i chatted with him as usual and he did not ignore me. the thing was, he told me he wanted us to be back together, he wanted me to give him a chance to prove again how much he was sorry for all that has happened to us. he told me he broke up with his gf because he wanted me back [i did not know if i should believe this]. being too kind and considerate of the years of friendship and because of the strong bond of our relationship, i agreed, gave him a chance but told him i wasn't ready to commit. still he tried to win me back but i did not see his consistency. we had our good times then despite all but after 4months,

we were off again, i saw some pictures on her blog with the same girl again. i did not know if they were together again but he said it was nothing. this time i was the was the one who sort of wanted us to be together again. he agreed and now we're happily back at each other's arms again. now is official unlike the times that i wasn't ready to commit. is a relationship like this normal? what's on my bf's mind that everytime we break up he gets back to this same girl again? i asked him why, he told me the pictures were nothing and that the last time was only because he used her to forget me. its not that i don't trust him, i know he loves me, im just confused on what may be on his mind, always getting back with the same girl...he says the girl already has a bf of her own now but i don't think that matters because i think the girl still likes him.i can say so because of what i see in her blog, i also saw she's still single. im 99percent sure that if my bf will get back with her, they'll

they'll end up together. im just sooo confused, i want to trust my bf a hundred percent..it seems like if i let him go, they'll end up together... help =p

Answer 1

I know. I would have broke up with my Five Year Old bf too... I prefer someone about 15 years over that amount.

Answer 2

You guys are still learning about life and emotions. Emotions are tricky when they are developing. Right now the two of you aren't mature enough to handle a monogamous relationship going at the rate that you are going. You are surrounded by temptation . The two of you will one day realize what is more important in life. You broke up with him first, his life went on, he met someone else that he is still clinging to for whatever reason, you feel insecure. He may be insecure, not knowing what to expect from you. The question that you need to ask yourself is "is he the person that you really want to be with?" I know that you guys have probably been intimate or this is someone that you have developed feelings for in the short but long five years that have past. Life will move much faster soon and you will meet more and more people. Some you will be attracted to some you won't. Some will be interested in you and again some you won't. The question that you have to ask yourself is are you willing to be in a monogamous relationship and if you are, the two of you have to sit down and talk things through. Place yourself in his shoes for a minute and ask yourself how would you feel if he were to have broken up with you first and then started dating someone else and then came back to you later? How would you truly feel? If he is to be in this relationship and solely be there for you, hes rightfully going to have cut his contact with his ex in all regards (and you also). You have to make him feel secure and if you can't do this you will be wasting your time and this behaviorial pattern will continue on both parts. He has to make you feel secure also. The first step is being honest with your emotions. You can't keep starting something to stop it later to pursue X,Y or Z. One of the beauties of being in a relationship is growing together through the good and the bad, the tough and the easy. You have to be consistent if you expect consistency in return. Now if you feel that you are giving 100% and he's not, then its time to move on (and vice versa). I hope that this helped a little and doesn't sound too confusing. Stay focused and if you guys truly decide that this isn't what you want or can't stay committed, then its time to move on before things turn ugly.

Answer 3

Hmm... you are one insecure girl. Look dwelling on what you ex does while apart is crazy making. Here is the real problem. You can not make up your mind on this guy. Why? Immaturity. Boyfriends are not a stuffed animal you toss around. Your frustration lies with you, not all this other crap you want us to evaluate. Stop acting like a child. Take your relationships with anybody seriously. Step one is respect yourself. Respect from others flows from there. Your conditional break ups are crazy. You break up in an effort to hurt him and you manipulate him when he heads in another direction. Stop that. Go with your gut. If you want this man in your life on a gut level then do your part to make it work. Otherwise let him go.

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Answer 4

funny thing is you couldve summed this up in about two sentences..ah well.

1. If you break up with this guy again for the 5 th 6th time? whats it really matter to you who he sees?

2. Obviously this other girl likes him, but probably those feelings are not returned from your BF standpoint. My guess is its an easy "gift" for him when he loses you. Hes using this other girl to feel validated and wanted.

Answer 5

Five years is a pretty long time to be with someone. I think both of you aren't ready for each other..You are both insecure about the relationship. I would say that you should talk about your insecurities with your BF. It'll let him know that you care enough to bother about him with other girls.

Answer 6

Guys are just like that~ I think he is just using you~
Get over him because hes not worth it~