2007-03-27 02:59:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It should never be a question of age. Is this person someone that you want to spend your life with, a true life partner? Do you both have similar attitudes about being a partner - are you the type to be joined at the hip and so is he or are you the type that wants freedom to continue separate interests and so does he? Are you both supportive of one another, encourage each other as you grow? At a certain point, age is simply a number, if you are truly compatible with similar tastes, interests, and values then by all means make the committment!
2007-03-27 03:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by NPB.Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on his maturity level as well as how old both of you are. If he's 18 and you are 30 I'd suggest waiting for a few years to let him grow up. If he's 28 and you're 40.. go for the gusto!
You never know what surprises life may bring either... men's life expectancy is lower than women's so by marrying a younger man you have a better shot at avoiding a long widowhood... but don't count on it! My mother in law married a man 13 years younger than her.. had a very successful marriage and 4 children... and he died before he was 50 and she's been widowed now for 36 years.
The moral being... you can't count on anything... if you love him and he's mature enough to marry anyone it might as well be you :)
2007-03-30 11:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is no barrier. Why are you asking this question? You obviously have some doubts and insecurities. The only one that can help you is your fiancee. Ask him, tell him what you are thinking. If you are both truly in love, their will be no barriers. Honesty is the only virtue. I am ten years older than my husband and believe me, the best thing, too many too mention. Go for it, If you truly love him, marry him and if he didn't want to marry you, you would not still be engadged.
Life is too short and you both obviously have what it takes.
Congratulations.
2007-03-27 03:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long has the "reality" of the age is an established part of the relationship. If he wants kids by YOU, can that happen or is he happy to be just with you for the next 20 years?
I am older than my husband and that is a real issue in my marriage. We have one son and he wants more and I'm at an age that "IT just is not happening" for many reasons. So to avoid that terrible experiance...talk it out.
By all means get married! Love is to be shared and their is nothing wrong with it unless, your kids/friends have serious issue with it, if so- you need to talk and handle their concerns. He is an addition to your family, not the new wall that divides it.
2007-03-27 03:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can adequately answer that question. Here is some of my advice though. Understand 'why' you want to get married. Is it because you feel it's TIME? Do you have issues with growing older? You may want to resolve any underlying neuroses about weddings and marriage- as they are two VERY different things. May I suggest a 6 month counseling session, to prepare you both for this major change in life. Take getting married as seriously as getting divorced.
2007-03-27 03:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine in the first place why you fell in love with each other. If your fiancee didn't mind dating people your age, then there's no reason to worry about the age. As long as you understand each other, care for each other and love for each other, such age gap is not a hinderance.
2007-03-27 03:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Josette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u truly love him,then marry him!
it does not matter bout the age difference.
As long as u love him and he loves u
2007-03-27 03:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him go right ahead. Remember age ain't notin but a number.
2007-03-27 03:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lady L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is only a number!! If you love him, truly love him..then why not?
2007-03-27 03:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you can marry her
2007-03-27 03:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋