Nothing has changed with his appearance but I'm finding myself wanting to be less intimate. I love him to death and want nothing more than to be with him. We've been together for a year now and there are no other problems with our relationship. I've been in a few long term relationships and I know that things settle down after awhile but that happened months ago. I'm just curious to know if there's something I can do and why this might be happening.
2007-03-27 02:43:42 · 12 answers · asked by Bonzilla!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same issue for a while, but then I looked at it in a new light. Find him doing something that you really like watching him doing and look at him doing it, that might spark that old flame and make you want to be intimate with him again.
2007-03-27 02:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The honeymoon is over syndrome. It happens to us all. It has nothing to do with appearances either. He's probably quit putting his best foot forward, & some of his more annoying traits are shining through. But, if your really do love him, & put forth a little effort, I bet you can still find the good things that attracted you in the first place. It's easier to find good things about someone when you look.
2007-03-27 02:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to set yourself up a night of romance....plan a date with him....do some things you BOTH like to do or think up new things and do them..take a dance lesson...or something..go back to your place and light candles....soft love songs on the radio........put on a teddy and sip some wine with him....talk..........nothing NEGATIVE all day......see if he joins in and romances you then...if he does you may be thinking differently then...he needs to roamance you ..make you want him....but you start it..this time...then tell him next time it is his turn....go back and forth...keep it alive or it will die...you are normal..it happens to everyone....someone has to start it up again...and when you talk...talk about when you two first met...the fun things you did together....positive upbeat things...that will make you both "feel" the feelings you had when you met and did thoes things.....trust me.....also after a year or two most women want a proposal....it should happen with in the first 2 years and a date set and a wedding being planned....so....this could be something in the back of your mind......write me if he doesn't pop the question with in 2 years and I'll have some tips for you that may help you out....I read alot of books and go to therapy...so I know my stuff! And I think I been through it all...ha ha ha ..take care and good luck!
2007-03-27 02:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could possibly just be your hormones as to why you feel you want to be less intimate. Sex is something to be enjoyed, not just done because you're around each other, you know? I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You will probably change in a couple days.
2007-03-27 02:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your bored, if you love him as much as you say, tell him. he'd want to know. maybe your just bored, and you need some change, not the guy, but have him try new things. or maybe not see eachother as much, it will make the time you have together more precious. and you may find hes more attractive. if that doesnt work, try a three way, you'll get jealouse, and be more attracted.
2007-03-27 02:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rob D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know, its natural for things to settle down. Maybe you need an opportunity to miss him, or to work out if it really HAS changed for you. Go away on a short break, just you, or go out with the girls, stay away from him for a week or something.
Sometimes, when your fed up with yourself, it reflects against the people who are closest to you.
2007-03-27 02:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by The Sooz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, I been wit my girl 4a year an a hlf it happens evry1 but if u reely love em ul stay wit em. an believe me if ur not up4it leave it a week or2 an well c how bad u want him den.
2007-03-27 02:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Eire rocks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont' wanna be intimate there's nothing wrong with that.. you guys may have rushed into it early on in the relationship. just enjoy the ride. if you care about him like you say you do being intimate shouldn't matter.
2007-03-27 02:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your doing the same thing over and over again try to do something new boyfriend
2007-03-27 02:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if he sounds like a brother it's definitely time to move on.
2007-03-27 02:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋