Why do men who get mail order brides judged in a negative way when there are men who need them?

Question

I know getting a mail order bride is pathetic and I am aware that men who have mail order brides treat them like dirt, but what about those whose lovelife is hopeless. I am a 33 year old virgin who has never been on a date or had a girlfriend. Every woman in America refuses to date me.

I deserve to have a wife because I would be the perfect husband. I would make breakfast in bed every day, I would give foot rubs every evening, I would cook for her, and take her out shopping and buy her whatever she wants. I would put her on a higher pedastal than anyone else's wife. What more can a girl ask for?

So my question is this: Why am I judged unfairly for getting a mail order bride when my lovelife is hopeless? I live in Los Angeles, where dating is very competitive. What other options do I have?

NO RUDE comments please. I deserve sympathy for the pain and suffering I am going through. I am a sensitive person. I might commit suicide if I get too may rude comments.

Answer 1

Men don't "need" mail order brides. They choose to acquire them because they're too lazy to put in the effort to make themselves appealing to women of equal social/ financial stature.

I sincerely doubt that EVERY woman in American refuses to date you. Think carefully about what it is you have to offer a woman in terms of your intelligence, looks, finances, age, etc. - and then look for women approximately your equal. (Every quality doesn't have to be equal - the sum total of the qualities should be about the same.) These women will date you - I promise.

Answer 2

"I might commit suicide if I get too may rude comments" get help then worry about a wife.
Honestly there's nothing wrong with mailorder brides but from the people i've known theres no need for them. Maybe your standards are too high, or maybe you're shy and need to use some of the new methods of meeting someone. The things you listed are nice but not what a lot of women are looking for in a marriage, and the mail order brides arn't necessarily either. those are just images the tv puts up for us.
I wish you all the best.
I honestly think you should see a i phsychiatrist first for your depression, and many times they can help you with confidence. maybe a dating/marriage counselor too and they can help you find a sweet girl in your area.
All the luck

Answer 3

I think the reason men are looked down on for getting a mail order bride is because they are choosing the easy way to get a lovely, subservient woman in their lives instead of taking the time to find the right person. It's ridiculous to say that every woman in America refuses to date you, maybe you haven't met the right girl yet. You sound like a very sweet guy. I think there are a ton of women out there who would love to date a guy like you.

Answer 4

Well... Bam Margera's friend did it..

I think it's an issue of love. When people get married, a lot of the time it is based on love and commitment, not being lonely. In other cultures, however, love has nothing to do with it and it's a matter of economic convenience and for making children.

Consider a few things (if you're really serious). Would you really want to be in a loveless marriage? Marry a complete stranger? What if she uses you for a green card and then leaves you? How can that be worth it?

Have you tried personals like match.com or e-harmony? Seems like that might be a better option...

So, good luck dude.

Answer 5

Wow the things you listed would make me want to date you in a heartbeat. Makes me wonder why jerks get girlfriends and why girls choose to stay with morons that treat them unfairly.

And personally I wouldn't let what other people think or say hold you back from getting a mail order bride. All that matters is what makes you happy. And I'm sure there is a wonderful lady out there for you. So good luck =)