I have always been an argumentative person. I have been working on being amiable towards people so that I can make more friends but I find that I can agree for about 5 minutes then I just burst out with my disagreements. For example, I attended a church breakfast and some of the men starting talking about how Walmart embodies true Christian values to which I responded "Walmart pays foreign workers .39 cents a day and discriminates against women"
To my way of reasoning, if I agree with what people are saying, that means I am endorsing their point of view and not being true to my value system.
How do other people manage to make it through conversations and get togethers without argueing with people?
Are you telling yourself it just isn't that important or that it is better to keep peace? How do you not express out loud that people are offending you?
2007-03-27 02:38:40 · 9 answers · asked by been there- done that 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just avoid rude comments, insinuations, or insults. Also try not to raise you voice too much as it may sound threatening. This will help make even disagreements more civilized and therefor more polite. If all else fails change the subject from whatever it is you disagree with. Having a different opinion does make you rude in any way.
2007-03-27 02:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by john p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two decisions.
1. Is it worth the battle. Pick the things that really matter.
2. If you disagree, find a way to disagree without being pushy. Saying things like, " That is not the way I see it; can you help me understand your thoughts?" There are lots of ways. The key is to accept that the other person has a right to his opinion and may well have ideas you have not thought about. It takes practice.
Good luck
2007-03-27 09:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Novice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to say ones opinion and believe in what one think is right. But in life (it is normal), there is always people who agree and disagree with you (actually that makes the thing is interesting, because in life there is always a doubt) One has to learn that no matter for what are the others opinion, then one has to be cool. One should not loose temper because the other is not agree, then the opponent will be able to see how one is. Watch for the great people when they are discussing the matters.
2007-03-27 11:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by ninka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, realize that when people disagree with you, it's not a judgement on YOU personally, it's just that you hold different beliefs on a subject.
You can express your opinion without being argumentative. You don't have to pretend to agree with people but you don't have to insert your opinion on every single subject matter, either. If the roundtable discussion comes to you, put in your two cents worth. If other people disagree with you, keep things calm and light by saying something like "We'll agree to disagree" or "That's not the way I see it."
Remember, you can discuss without arguing.... if the subject matter is one that obviously gets some emotions on high, then don't discuss that subject and move on to something lighter!
2007-03-27 09:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nod and keep your mouth shut. It's VERY difficult, and will not be automatic for you at first (trust me on this).
Some people like to hear themselves speak, and you are not changing your "value system" by not refuting them. They won't change their mind, and all they've managed to do is get you to care about their opinion. If you must refute an argument, be prepared to do so logically and in a calm manner. Even if nobody's mind is changed, you have at least asserted your viewpoint and stood your ground.
If you watch a TV show and someone says something disagreeable to you, what good does it do to yell at the screen? None, and hard-headed people are no different.
Hey, in my opinion, BOTH of you are right about Wal-Mart.
2007-03-27 09:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know what you mean, i usually remove myself from their prescence even it it means not seeing or calling someone,my circle is comfortable,and itis important to be around people who think as you do . you should get your point across to them by posing leading questions calmly even though the urge to kick an *** or two is very tempting,especially in the church where critical thinking is a void,hence so many sheep. baaaaaaaah
2007-03-27 09:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by willimor7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being polite is being good to others
and no matter whom u r being polite
so kep up the attitude of such kind
it will actually help u
2007-03-27 09:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Spicy Ketchup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dont think about what they agree with and as long as you think what you think is right then they are going to do the same thing, so yea...
2007-03-27 09:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right,
from your point of view.
Your point of view is wrong.
2007-03-27 09:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by ed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋