If I loved her. I said I did eventhough I didn't mean it. Now she is
telling all her friends that I said it and that we are a couple now.
How can I take back telling her that I loved her and still be able
to have the sex with her? She is a gorgeous girl and I would still like to be able to get the sex.
2007-03-27 02:35:19 · 40 answers · asked by Jason 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah, Jason...wishful thinking. Look, she obviously doesn't want just sex, but is looking for a more serious relationship. Now, if you want to take back the I love you part, she WILL break up with you! There is no way out of the situation...if you want to continue having sex with her, you will have to suck it up and let her keep thinking that you love her. If, however, you want to do the right thing and be honest with her and tell her that it's just sex you want, then she will most definitely break up with you. There is unfortunately no way around it! Good luck...
2007-03-27 02:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't take it back but you can rephrase it and what I mean when I say that is. Next time she brings it up or you can bring it up, say you asked me at the wrong time and that you mean you love her, like you love a sister and a friend. You care for her and wouldn't want to see anything happen to her, but you are not like "in love" with her. She should understand and then advise her that you thought that, that's what she meant when she asked you. And then you found out she meant something else when she started telling her friends. I mean it was during sex, what are you gonna say. "O, yeah, I love you, but not like that" Hell no, then her feelings would be hurt and she would probably had stopped, no she would have stopped. To me it was a set-up and she knew to ask you in the heat of the moment because guys say they love someone all the time during sex. Not that it's right but it's the heat of the moment you think you do but it's just the good sex. I mean I am a woman and I have said I love you, I wanna marry you, I want to have your baby. All types of crap, but I didn't and don't mean it and it's jsut to make the sex better. She should have known better so don't feel bad. Set it straight as soon as possible because I can guarantee you that it will only get worst and worst. Let her know before you know it she will be talking about kids and a marriage, living together and the future, when actually all you wanna do is get layed. HIWH
2007-03-27 02:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a piece of sh*t you are!
What was the point of lying? Ultimately she played you...because she possibly had her doubts thats why she asked you when she did. At your most vunerable... there's no way in taking it back now and still getting the p*ssy, because Im sure she suspected that from you were just a p*ssy-chaser from the very beginning.
You can possibly salvage your dignity (if you have any) and maybe your tires from being slashed, by coming outright (at HER HOUSE) so she dont f*ck up your sh*t, and telling her... you're not in love with her. Tell her face to face, anything less will seem cold & ruthless and turn things messier. Let her scream, cry, throw things, curse you out whatever...
Apologize and leave.
If she thinks youre worth screwing, she'll call you.
But you run the risk of just prolonging the agonish of another scene.
Next time, be a MAN about it... tell the WOMAN (not a girl) youre interested in her physically and let her decide. Most women will still sleep with you, if you "got game". If you dont, then you need to sit and reevaluate WHY you're in it for the p*ssy and nothing else. Is it because you know you have nothing to offer but sex..yourself? Men who are really about something, dont act like that. They speak their minds upfront, and lay out what they want and whats being offered.
Looks like its time to "Man-up", Jason
2007-03-27 02:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by too_hot4words 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you made a big mistake mister. You can never take that back and still expect to have sex with her. Best to move on and find somebody else. No girl is going to allow you to do that. What a freaking insult. And she should have never asked you that in the middle of sex. Bad move on her part. Those words should never be brought up for the first time in the middle of having sex.
2007-03-27 02:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should of been honest with her and let her know how you really felt even if it was just for the sex. Because if you do that and keep leading her on all it will do is make her feel worse when she found out that you didn't mean it and you was just using her for sex, and if you tell her now ya'll friendship.
Good Luck!
2007-03-27 02:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet_Carmel10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all goes back to what we tell our little girls when they are growing up, "Boys only want you for what is in your pants!"
So sad, yet you prove it to be true. And you don't mind bragging about the fact that you only want her for the sex.
What a sad, sad little man you are. You deserve whatever you get at this point. Maybe tonight while you are banging away she will ask you if you will marry her, tomorrow!! How you and your best bud gonna get out of that one?
2007-03-27 02:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have said it if you didnt mean it,
and probably you wont be able to have sex with her after you tell her that you dont really love her.
But its either keep a girl thinking that you really do love her or you tell her that you didnt and risk not having sex with her.
The sex cant be that good, and Im sure there are other hott girls that dont need you to tell them that you love them.
2007-03-27 02:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by chelseylauren2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell someone you love them if you really don't!! Are you crazy? "I love you", is not something you just throw around. Those words mean so much to a woman and you shouldn't say it if you don't. That is just cruel. If all you want is sex, go get the sex from someone else who doesn't use those words.
2007-03-27 02:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by DawnC36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...common mistake! You got baited and you took it, because you were too busy enjoying yourself.
Well, now live with it. A duh!! That is one of the oldest tricks in the world. If it had never been said, or never brought up prior to your horizontal mambo...then why now?
See, a more experienced guy would have known to revert the attention back to the lovemaking...she wouldn't have been thinking about an answer.
But you're stuck now dude. Deal with it.
2007-03-27 02:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your own fault. Girls take these things seriously, having sex is not some game to them, if they have sex with a guy, they expect more to come from it, not just a quicky.
You should never mess around with girls feelings like that, only sleep with someone if you actually have feelings with them or if you know they definately don't have feelings for you. Otherwise someone always gets hurt.
2007-03-27 02:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Yellow 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋