thank you for all your great answers. no he is not being bullied but he is in the same class as his cousin and i've been told they are just like twins and even though they can fight like cat and dog they play together really well. the teachers were a little concerned but as the year has gone on don't seemed to be that bit bothered. when the children are doing projects they do like to pair them of with other kids. the sad thing is i've seen him in class and all the rest of the children seemed alert except for him maybe i should change schools any ideas? my child is only 5 but alot brighter than most 5 year olds and i'm not just saying that because i'm his mum
2007-03-27 02:34:25 · 9 answers · asked by bunny 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I wouldn`t rush into changing schools. Maybe he just feels a little peeved when teachers don`t let him pair off with his cousin. He`s too young to understand they want him to "circulate." It`s bound to make you feel sad if he appears not to be joining in or looking unhappy- but was that just one occasion? If it`s a regular thing you really need to talk to his teacher. I would talk to teacher anyway-teachers get to spend more time with our kids than we do and get to know them preeetttyyy well ! The fact he and his cousin "fight like cat and dog" is good-that`s normal for 5 year olds who love each other! One minute there`s a war on-next minute best buddies - it doesn`t get more normal than that! For 5 years you`ve been with him all the time, and it`s hard to let go when they go to school. Kids think it`s hard going off to school - they dont have a clue what us mums go thru do they? Think of it like this-if the mums of every child in the class all lined up and looked thru the window at the kids, they`d swear THEIR little one was the one looking unhappy/not fitting in/didn`t have a friend. (LOL) It`s just your natural motherly instincts coming out-you want to take him home don`t you? You`ll get thru it, you just need time, and if he`s the bright little lad you say he is he`ll be fine as well. Just don`t let him pick up on your anxiety. If you have a positive attitude -he will too.You say he`s brighter than most 5 year olds. If he was unhappy his brightness wouldn`t be shining thru would it ?
2007-03-27 05:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should look into autism?
other problems- if he is as smart as you say maybe he is bored as the class is too easy for him and he cant therefore be bothered joining in?
I dont think changing schools will help. See if they have a special needs teacher- which doesnt always mean they arent smart its just that they have needs over and above other kids.
2007-03-27 10:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your son an only child? My daughter is the same way, she rather stay to her self than play outside with her friends. I was also concerned but I know that if she is ok with that then so am I. I'm sure she will grow out of it when she is ready.
2007-03-27 09:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by imari104012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may b chaanging a school cud b good idea...but why dont u try...telling him to do things...visit his school once in a while n do some voluntery work in school n help out his teacher...when he will see u around may b he will feel a bit like home...its just new for him to go to different world...
get him more toys which are educational...get something wich he usually sees in his class...try decorating his room into babyish study type room..with alphabets and numbers and daisy n flowers! try creating atmosphere..where he becomes active...n start realising tht school is same fun as home!...
also contact those parents whose child r studying with him...once in a while..organise a small party...invite those kids n thier parents...for small party...so he gets to know them ...n makes friend!
do something in his way!
hope tht helps!
2007-03-27 09:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by answer it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have the same problem if you change schools.Try and initiate contact with another child yourself and invite him over to play.He may have other problems that might need looking into.Have a chat with his teacher.He is only five.It may take him a while to settle into school.
2007-03-28 01:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit down with your son and have a talk about what he thinks of school.
I think he seems O.K., and that you would have a problem if he was upset and not wanting to go to school.
You cannot be certain that changing schools will make any difference.
2007-03-27 18:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son may be shy.I would give him chance maybe he has not settled in.If you change schools it might work or it might push him further into himself.Can you throw a little party invite his class mates that might help to break the ice.Good Luck
2007-03-27 10:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do whatever you feel is best for you and your child and family :) it was hard for me as i have a child with autism and had to move him schools but it was the best thing in the end hes so happy now goodluck :)
2007-03-27 09:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also maybe hes dislexic... ie bright but cant read the board or needs glasses.
You are right however about sorting it out early
2007-03-27 11:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋