I am getting married in about 3 weeks and am sorta scared of it in a way. This will be my 3rd time doing this (sad, I know) and I do not want to make another "mistake" so to speak. How do you know the difference? Please, only serious answers, I do not need to be ridiculed. Thank you-
2007-03-27 02:34:01 · 13 answers · asked by lostinflorida05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since the basis for the best relations is communication and trust you need to nurture that. Not just with the person you are marrying either, but with yourself. Sit down and relax for a little bit each day, meditate if you are able, just to find some peace within yourself. You will learn to communicate with yourself that way, because you will become more aware of yourself and your feelings. As you learn to communicate with yourself you will learn to start trusting your instincts more as well.
As for your fiance', if you truly love each other you should be able to sit down with them and talk about this. Tell them you are worried about making a mistake and hurting them and getting hurt yourself.... very likely they have many of the same fears. Sharing them will help, as you will both know that youre on the same level and there is nothing wrong with having "nerves" before a wedding (whether its your first or your fiftieth). I think you will find that you are having more doubts than usual due to your "failures", not because of your love (or lack thereof) for your fiance'.
2007-03-27 02:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some major signs of cold feet would be if you keep questioning the life you'd have with that person after marraige or if you feel more butterflies in your stomach than actual excitement. How long have you two been together? The best but hardest thing to do would be to sit down with your better-half and talk to them about this. Don't be too nervous and be confident when you do this so that you'll know what you want to say and so that none of your words come out sounding "wrong". You'll be alright. I just want you to be careful hon. Tell me how thiings go.
2007-03-27 02:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you and I too been married twice. The third time I got cold feet and didn't marry him ..we lived together for 10 years and it was hell...I would of ended it but we had twins and one died and the other was very ill and in the hospital for the first 3 months of life..ya da ya da ya da..anyways I threw him out 3 times and feared for our son so I took him back all the time. Well 4 years ago I threw him out for good! I think the COLD FEET I got when I was to marry him was a sign to RUN..because living with him for 10 years was hell. I just think from my past experiences that when I doupt anything I just don't do it , no matter how hard it is..and I have been ok....I too think it is GOD saying don't do it or no.....that little voice is HIM...so anything in my life now I have doupts about I listen to my "cold feet" and I have never been happier!! Good luck!! ALso what I do now is THINK...I got a book about relationships..Dr. Phils...read it.....both you and him do the tests and answer the questions....if he fails the tests adn you do not like his answers then don't marry him..It is a book about relationships and it is everything you need to know to make one work....trust me...I may be single now for 4 years but I am happy and the next man I marry will pass my tests...
2007-03-27 02:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for the reason which you have been married till now so which you recognize that regularly marriage is a risk. this is confusing artwork and that i will understand in case you have reservations. What i don't understand is why he grew to become into pushing for it and now back monitoring. communicate it out now. Ask him.. tell him the reality. No way will it continuously be walk on air love, worry-free crusing time. there will be confusing cases regardless of if this is reason you would be unable to agree on some thing as stupid as what channel to observe or some thing extra. yet once you the two truly love one yet another and are keen to grant and take it may artwork. stable success and that i desire which you're making the main appropriate determination for YOU.
2016-11-23 18:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by mondesir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your relationship. Be honest with yourself. Think about him, his habits, career, personality and ask yourself if you can see spending the next twenty or so years with him. The important thing is to be BRUTALLY honest with yourself. Don't lie to yourself. If you've done all this and you still want to get married because there's something deep in you that wants to be with him, then you've just got cold feet. But if you don't feel like you can live with him AS HE IS RIGHT NOW for the rest of your lives, don't get married.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 02:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant know if this will work out, but you can MAKE this marriage better than the last by doing what you learned, keeping communication in it, and just being happy! Dont let the little things get your marriage off,and be strong enough to say SORRY.
2007-03-27 02:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in about a month and a half and I keep having dreams about our wedding being a disaster.
I know I want to get married. I am worried about the actual wedding going off smoothly.
2007-03-27 04:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has that.... gosh my heart is pounding right now thinking about it.... Hey it's a big scary decision!! I think it's normally to be scared and worried. It's my first so I can only image 2nd or 3rd.... because then you start reflecting on everything from the past.
Treat yourself to a spa day and try to get yourself to relax!!
2007-03-27 02:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wake up every morning thinking about him & missing him & get all excited for when you are about to see him, then its for real. If you don't care & you feel like this is a "whatever" thing, then don't get married. Whats the rush anyway? Just take it slow & see what happens.
2007-03-27 03:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he perfect?
Be careful...this is a trick question. NOBODY is perfect. The ones that say they have the "perfect" guy, is "blind" with love and doesn't see the whole picture.
So...The real question is...Can you live with his faults? or is there some things that you are just "hoping" will change with time?
2007-03-27 02:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋