moved in with him and checked his cell phone and found a text message from a woman that was not just friends, I also checked his phone log & he has talked to this woman a lot before I moved in with him and has continued even after I moved in. I confronted him about this person and he states she is just a co-worker who likes to play games on his phone. (yeah right) We had a big blow up about my trust issues.I don't trust him but I'm trying to... I'm not sure I should - Do I give up and move on?
2007-03-27 02:29:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry guys - I meant my daughter's father...
2007-03-27 03:01:23 · update #1
If you feel he is worth you sticking around and giving him the benefit of doubt then do it.........if he's not so much worth it then I say leave.
Never make that decision based on your daughter, your needs has to come first when it comes to an adult relationship. If you stay knowing you would never be happy it will effect your daughter. Of course having both parents is a plus but only when both parents are happy.
If you do decide to work it out, let him know oh girl can not call nor text him anymore. I have male co workers too and we do not play on each others phone, our relationship is strictly work related. We communicate at work and that's it. He should respect you and end the little game with the chick at work, cause either she likes him or they had a fling or one or the other is wishing for a fling. And maybe he did like her, but realistically he was single at the time and now he needs to be reminded he is no longer single. Bottom line oh girl has to go and you need to know in your heart if you can trust him. Otherwise it will not work.
2007-03-27 02:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you really mean your daughter's father? b/c then it would make much more sense. Even though the situation between your man and his co-worker may be inocent, it's not right. This woman should find someone else's phone to play games on : ) You and your man apparently just got back together, he should respect you. If things don't change, you should love yourself enough to get out of this relationship. If this relationship hasn't been a solid one from the beginning, then you probably should have moved on a long time ago anyways. I'm sure there's someone out in this world, who will really love you, respect you and appreciate you. Not all men are the same, there's still good guys out there.
2007-03-27 09:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not trust him now you will likely never feel a confident full trust in him. And trust is one of the biggest things in a relationship.
I suggest that you move on and find someone you can trust fully without any reservations. You and your daughter both deserve more so get on with your life. You will eventually find what you are looking for in a man that will treat you with respect and not 'play games' on the phone.
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-27 09:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-Maw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were your off and on relationships about? Was it because he was cheating on you? Hey girl....get rid of him if this is the case...he is not going to change. Once a cheater always a cheater. If you are having blowups all the time and you can not trust him, which from the sounds of it, I don't blame you, it is not good for your daughter anyway. Give up and move on for her sake if not your own.
2007-03-27 09:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well trust is the number one thing to keep a relationship strong...if he left the phone where you could see it maybe it was all innocent....i would think after being away for 10 years he would find a better way of being more discreet...unless he is taking you for stupid....if you want to try and make it work then you must trust but if he keeps giving you reasons then it is time to give up..you yourself know him better than any of us do you feel this was innocent any chance? if not step out of his life...good luck
2007-03-27 09:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by sonialynnl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fathers daughter? so your sister?? and shes a him?? thats a little confusing but about the phone and trust thing...i would contront the WOMAN to see why she is calling your mans phone and if theyve been having an affair, but before you do that be straight-forward with your man and tell him how you feel about this situation
2007-03-27 09:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got together with your fathers daughter then that would mean your sister.
If trust is an issue and always will be then I say move on or go to counselig to see if you can resolve the issue. It really depends on what the relationship means to you.
2007-03-27 09:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hold on. You moved in with your father, or your father's daughter? Who is "him"? Is it your father, or his daughter? Is it your father who is talking to this other woman? Are you getting it on with your father? Or his daughter? It's really hard to tell what's going on here but the whole thing sounds a bit like a zoo.
2007-03-27 09:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your father's daughter would be your sister.
This has to do with a guy possibly having an affair.
Were you stoned when you posted this?
EDIT:
He may be innocent....maybe.
Call her up and see what reaction you get.
2007-03-27 09:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the problem of my fiance talking to his exs and i am ok about it and his ex is in my wedding and he is hot and i know that other girls want him and i know that i have him and he wants no one else and if you feel that he loves you than tell him that you know aout the other girl/women and tell him that you do not fell comfortable with him talking to the other girl and if that does not work then call her and confront her about your man and that she needs to leave him alone and to **** off
2007-03-27 09:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋