A friend of mine (age:30) was set to get married on 7/7/07, and I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in the wedding. Two months ago, she called it all off and broke up with the guy(he was kind of a jerk). She immediately started dating a man who she works with who apparantly always really liked her but she never noticed. This past weekend, he proposed to her, she said yes, and now they are planning to get married 9/1/07. To me this is WAY too soon, considering she is coming off of a 5+ year relationship. Can I say anthing at all to her in a loving, constructive manner, or do I have to keep my mouth shut? I have real concerns about standing up and supporting this marriage in front of God and 200 people when I'm terrified for her.
2007-03-27 02:28:11 · 12 answers · asked by LemmingPie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its her life, you can talk to her and advice her, but at the end it will be her decision. Talk to her, tell her your concerns, at the end, your friend, like I said will make the decision and you as a friend just be there for her, I know thats what she wants.
2007-03-27 02:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a little quick....
You could mention your feelings but if she's not interested in what you're saying, drop it.
At any rate - instead of looking at this as standing up and supporting the wedding, could you be a bridesmaid in support of your friend? And the wedding isn't for another 5 months, a lot of things can happen in that time.
2007-03-27 09:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. What your friend does is no ones business but hers. You never know, this marriage to the new guy may be one of the extreme few that just might last 50 years. I've known people who got married after 5 years and was divorced within 5 years. I also know another couple who just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary last summer and they married after dating 2 weeks.
2007-03-27 09:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just some food for thought....sometimes these things DO work out, and you'll have lost a friend for making a hasty judgment.
If she split with someone you said was a jerk, but you were going to be in THAT wedding, I don't get your thinking.
Just be supportive, as friends should do. She's marrying someone who treats her well, and loves her. What's the problem?
2007-03-27 09:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Karen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she feels it too soon to be making such a rash decision.
But in the end, support her. That is what friends are for. I had to be a bridesmaid and watch my best friend marry this guy who was a total tool, who I knew it would not work out with (it didn't) but I was there for her. That is what friends do. (Oh and I had told her how I felt).
2007-03-27 09:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say the the old boy friend was a jerk . So if this it true . Be happy that she has some one that is going to be good to her and be there for her. If you don't be happy for her She may turn on you then you wont be there to help her if she need you. Be happy for her and stand by her in what ever she wont. After all it is her life.And you are her friend and and friend in need is a Friend in deed. stand by her and be happy for her, and be there for her, be a friend. No one really knows who is right . No one. Just be happy for her and that she let the jerk go.
2007-03-27 09:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by some one that cares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her life. If you really cannot bring yourself to be a part of her happy day, then politely decline the offer. She will no doubt require an answer from you so therefore, you will need to prepare yourself to be honest with her....either that, or just keep quiet and hope that her marriage will be an everlasting one.
2007-03-27 09:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should be there for her on her day. Odds are she's going to do what she wants to do regardless of what you say. Why lose a friend?
2007-03-27 09:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kalliopeie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a true friend you'll tell her that "isnt it too soon?" because it just might end in divorce
2007-03-27 09:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by You'llNeverKnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what you believe then do not go to support what you do not believe in...
2007-03-27 09:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Diggs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋