How can I know he is the right guy to get married with?I am already 29,but still wondering maybe there's a better man out there for me.
2007-03-27 02:22:56 · 17 answers · asked by hsingyu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps. He definitely wants to marry me.
2007-03-27 02:33:47 · update #1
getting married is not that easy..being with a man for 8 years doesn't mean you know him that much...its really very different when you actually live with your man on the same house everyday for the rest of your life..if you keep on dreaming of your ideal man...well there is no such thing as an ideal man. if you are not contented with him.well better not marry him. you know why? when you are married and you would see his flows...negative attitudes you'll easily get upset and would not try to understand and accept him...you would always say..what if he wasn't the one i married...my life wouldn't be like these... your marriage might not work out fine.. if you love him..and he loves you...thats important and you must accept each other and you must know each other and be ready to accept whatever faults one has when you are married then go ahead marry each other.
do not worry about your age... there is no really a right time of marriage.. better marry at a later age and have that marriage last for a life time than marry at an early age and later on part ways.
if you are having second thoughts...think a thousand times before entering marriage... its happy but its difficult
2007-03-27 02:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by jasmine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having doubts, is not a good thing. You really need to examine how you feel about him. Why are you wondering if there is a better man for you out there? Apparently he doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated. So why are you still there? The best thing to do is do a pro and con list, of your relationship, then examine whether or not you can deal with all the cons down the long road of marriage. I can tell you this most people do not ever change, at least drastically, so if this is what your thinking it won't happen. The only way for it to even possibly happen to help change someone's patterns is how you react to them, but in general he will be always have the same attitude and personality he already has.
2007-03-27 09:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been doubting this for a long time, that should be the red flag that maybe you don't want to be with him. It's also no hurry to get married no matter what age you are. You obviously care about him if you have been together this long, but it seems you don't want to get married. Gene Simmons has been with his girlfriend for 26 years, never been married, has children and they're plenty happy. =D
Sorry I'm just trying to make you feel better. You should talk to him about this. If he's pressuring you, let him know that you don't want to get married. Or even if you enjoy spending time with him, that's a sign that you do want to be with him. If you two don't talk much and he's constantly jealous or tries to control what you do, that's a major red flag that you two shouldn't be together. I'm just throwing out different situations and seeing if you relate to them. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-03-27 09:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ashely G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it may just be a fear of committment that is keeping you from marrying him, and not your boyfriedn himself. If you have been with him 8 years he can't be that bad. And if you are not sure maybe you should take a tiem out and focus on you so that you will know what is best for you when it does come along. I would definately make a decision soon because you are wasting your pretty on this guy if you don't want to really be with him.
2007-03-27 09:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lady A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still wondering then you must not be with the man you are wanting to marry after 8 years you should know if he is the one without having to ask anyone so maybe its time to start dating and seeing other people
2007-03-27 09:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by sonialynnl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight years..I am sorry he is never going to marry you...ever...go find yourself someone who is NOT afraid to commit to you! Normal people get engaged within 2 years and have wedding plans started atleast.....the longer you are with a man when he doesn't ask you to marry him the chances are greater you will divorce if he does ask you and you marry him..I read that..I think it was Dr. Phil.....
2007-03-27 09:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after eight years you don't know whether you want to marry him, you don't.
Don't worry, though. If it's been eight years and he hasn't asked you to marry him yet, he doesn't want to marry you, either.
If marriage is a goal for you, it's time to cut bait on this one.
2007-03-27 09:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very hard question ... only you know who's right for you ... i've been in your same shoes and to tell you the truth ... it bites! just to think that there may be somebody who will love me more ... or I will love more ... and then you stop to think if it is the only and last guy you'll ever be with ... it's disturbing, but true ...
But if you have doubts, he may not be the one ... plain and simple.
2007-03-27 09:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Guagui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not sure if he's the one after eight years then, I think you have already answered your own question.
If you continue to wonder the unknown then you will never be sure what's right in front of you...........
Best of Luck*****
2007-03-27 09:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really that insecure about that person, who is supposed to be the rest of your life with, maybe you should marry him.
2007-03-27 09:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋