how should i deal with my parents?

Question

i am living in a house where my mom complains about what i wear and she said she has had it up to here with me and my stepdad hates me what should i do

Answer 1

Well your mom complains about your dresses because she is worried about you. You can either stop wearing dresses that your mom would not like or try to talk to her and assure her that you would be okay.

Try to get along with your dad. Try to know why he hates you. Let him know there's nothing to hate about you.

Answer 2

If she is complaining about your clothing is it because it is too revealing? If this is the case, you could just tone it down a little. I'm sure that your stepdad doesn't hate you. Sounds like your mother is stressed out. You could make it a little easier for her by dressing more conservatively (if that is the issue). Your mother is only looking at for your best interests. I am certain that she doesn't want guys to think that you are easy and the way that one dresses can certainly send off signals. A lot of times they aren't even the right signals...Every teenage girl wants to look attractive and a lot of them take it to the extreme. Just take pride in yourself and talk to your mom. You could actually tell her the way that you are feeling. She has been there she will understand.

Answer 3

Parents are not a card game...so stop trying to deal the deck and make use of what they say. If ya don't let the guidance in you'll turn circles during your young adult years and be responsible for your own slow-down in maturity.

Step-parents R also parents...therefore, the dad in that home. Dad's don't hate their children they tend to behavior and spend time. If there is too much negativity around the house pull out a board game or plan an outing.

Answer 4

Well, it all depends on what you are wearing.

If you are dressing with short short skirts and big boots and skimpy tops, you are probably sending out a bad message to your neighborhood. I'm not saying going old fashion school girl. But cover up a bit.

If you are wearing clothes that are too baggy and don't fit properly then you are sending out a message that you dont care about yourself.

And, depending on your age there really isn't anything you can do about your parents but talk to them and try to get to an agreement about what is appropriate for your age. Im sure neither of them hate you. You can't be a rebel. It's easy to just find a medium between you three.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Can you comprise with your Mom, just to make things a little easier? Tell her that you don't want to give up your "style" and maybe she can try to be a little more understanding and you can try to make some slight changes as far as what you wear. Maybe you can talk to her about your step dad. Explain to her that it's hard enough being a young girl in this day and age and your step dad is making your life harder. I'm sure she remembers what it's like to be your age. She should be able sympathize with you. And as a parent, it is her duty to protect you.

Answer 6

You need to take stock as to how and why you ended up in a family with a step dad! Your mother, sorry to say, is probably trailer trash and do you want to end up this WAY?

Probably not. If I were you I would search out the truth as to how you can avoid the pitfalls that your mother and father got into. So when you have kids your daughter doesn't come on this board and ask the same question you did!

Good luck!

Answer 7

Try talking to her.....my parents are the saem way about how I dress...(they think I'm gonna start being goth or something) Just try to get a time when she's calm and try talking to her about how you like dressing that way and also ask her why she doesn't like the way you dress...maybe you guys could comprimise in some way....that's what happened w/ me & my mom.....

Answer 8

if you live under their roof, and you are under 18, then i suggest that you try and make things work out for your best interests..which is to continue living there, with a roof over your head, food on the table, and some financial support that i am sure you are getting...when you are 18, you can move out and dress and do as you please, until then, suck it up..

Answer 9

talk to her in private, if that doesnt work maybe stay with a relative or friend for a few weeks and maybe even move in with them if the relationship doesnt get better.

Answer 10

Tell them how you feel, if they dont listen talk to a guidance couselor and tell them whats up. They can really help.