as i said my daughter is 5 but she thinks she is "miss thing". i know it is my little girl i am talking about but some days she tends to be a real nasty b*tch. she speaks to me like i am nothing if i tell her to do something she tells me flat out NO, she doesn't listen if you moan with her she sticks her tongue out and pull faces at you.
this has only started recently and she doesn't do it always.
she is actualy a lovely girl whom every one loves, but sometimes she just get weird
we have tried almost everything.
i need help
2007-03-27 02:11:29 · 13 answers · asked by sweet - angel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Dont you just love little girls and their HUGE attitudes!!!
My aughter did this as well, she is 6 now. So I know your pain. I was trying to figure out where she got it from. IT took me a while. But I realised she got it from my friends daughters. We stayed with them for a visit, and twin teenage girls is ALOT of attitude. So my darling daughter thought this was they way big girls were meant to act.
So she started acting like that. If asked to do something she would roll her eyes, or have some come back. I let it go for a bit thinking it would pass. But I finally got really annoyed and frustrated with it. She was also teaching this attitude to her little sister and that was just to much for me.
So one day after having had enough, I sat her down and explained, that she was my daughter and I was her mother and it really upset me that acted like this and was disrespectful to me. I explained that everyone should respect one another until given a reason not to. And if you respect someoen then they will respect you. I reminded her that I was the one that provided for her every need, loved and cared for her so it really hurt my feelings. Espeacially when all I wanted was for her to grow up and be happy and healthy and a beautiful person. (On the inside) This was followed by explaining the meaning of respect and disrespect.
But with her lack of respect it really worried me that she wouldnt turn out to be a nice person, espeacially if she was going to treat others like she did me. No-one would like her.
I asked her if she would like it if I acted the way she did all the time. I actually did this for a while to show her how it felt and she hated it.
She said sorry and we hugged. And she has been great ever since. Of course she still has her " little princess" attitude, but thats normal and I can deal with that. It was the disrespect and the teaching her sister the same attitude that got me.
Now when we visit my friend her girls tone down their attitudes as much as they can. Because I explained that my daughter looked up to them and copied everything they did and they were teaching her bad habits. I understand that they are teenagers and they are entittled to their little hissy fits or whatever. But just the whole being disrespectful thing to their Mother and siblings is not ok. And they have to be the lovely girls they are in front of my children.
So my suggestion is you sit down with your daughter and explain how her behaviour is making you feel and your concerns about how it will effect her in her life. And try and figure out where she got it from. If she is anything like my daughter, then the last thing she will want is to actually make her Mummy sad or upset.
Tell her that being disrespectful is just not tolerated and never will be. And have a punishment in place for when she does. My daughter was sent to her room to think about how her actions or attitude affected others.
2007-03-27 02:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through this wit my oldest when she was 5 and now again that she is 8.My husband and I along with her came up with punishment for not behaving.
We use writting sentences as a punishment for her. I have made a rule list, posted it where she can read it all the time, and she has a calander with her name on it. If she breaks one of the rules she has to write the rule number on the date, if she gets a check beside it for breaking that rule again she has to write sentences. At 5 years old she write 25 sentences, now that she is 8 we are up to 50. If she breaks another rule that day it goes the same way 2 warnings and on the third we write senetences again. If she breaks the same rule twice within a week she is not allowed to play for 3 days (she picked out the number of days). She also helped with the rules and number of sentences to write. Because we included her in coming up with the punishment she has been doing very well with this and has starting behaving. Just try including her in the punishment, and talk to her ask her why she feels she should act this way. And if all else fails just act like a b*tch back, sometimes that makes them realize hey I dont like how my mom is acting towards me so maybe she doesnt like it when I do it to her.
2007-03-27 09:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by chickfromthelotuspod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Consistency is the key. Every time she does this, you must stop what you are doing, tell her that is 'not okay', or 'unacceptable behavior' and give her a time out (naughty bench, naughty spot, whatever). When she's had 5 minutes (1 minute per year) have her apologize to you, before you let her up.
If you are not consistent, and let her get away with it one time, it's all for nothing.
She will quickly learn that she has unpleasant consequences every time, and will stop. You must do it every time, even it it isn't convenient for you.
The hard work initially will be worth it. You can do it, hang in there!
2007-03-27 09:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion, maybe this is just her personality. Everyone is born with diffrent personalities and most the time theres nothing you can do to change it. BUTTT you have to also remember that she is only 5. My nephew is 7 and I cant stand it sometimes how he curses and he thinks hes all grown up. But dont worry about it, they snap out of it once they learn the real diffrence between RIGHT from WRONG. Im sure shes not going to be alittly "bi*tch" for ever!! ;-) shes only 5!! and especially little girls, they always think there "all that" when there young like that age..lol..
2007-03-27 09:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by curious789 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Chances are if you are calling your 5 year old a nasty b**ch(albiet, hopefully not to her face), she has picked up on your feelings. Not good. If she is behaving like this, it might be because it gets her attention. Ignore her when she does or says something nasty. Reward her for good behavior. It will take some time, but eventually she will get hte idea that mommy doesn't like this and it doesn't get her anywhere. Good luck
2007-03-27 09:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kennedysma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 5, you are her mother, you need to snap her out of it right now. Sticking her tongue out at you in not acceptable and when she says no to you, you tell her, "excuse me, but I am the boss and when I ask you to do something, I want you do to it, right now." If necessary give her a smack on the butt.
She needs to know that she can't talk to you like that. What will she be like when she is 15.
Be strong
2007-03-27 09:35:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 6 and I too am wondering where she gets her huge attitude from! I mean, I love her, but, she acts like she is 17 and treats me like she thinks I am a fool. And yes, I do monitor what she watches on TV, and it is not coming from there.
This is what I have figured out... our little girls crave attention, and they will do almost anything to get it. Acting uppity gets a lot of our attention. By acting all grown up they are trying to emulate us, their mothers, but they don't quite know how to get it right. So, let's give them attention. Spend a lot of time with her. Do fun things together. Try to get her to emulate more acceptable womanly behaviours like respect and patience. Don't go shopping together, instead try going for a nature walk, making cookies, doing a quiet craft together so that you can talk one on one. And when they act like little britches, cut it off and send her to her room, with the understanding that she will not be getting any attention from you until she apologizes and displays a better attitude. This will be a long and slow process. But, I really believe that what they are looking for is our attention and approval. They want to be like us, like grown up ladies. Let's teach them how.
2007-03-27 09:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by bugged to death 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you monitor what she watches on television? Children only pick these nasty behaviors up from others. Pay attention to the things she watches on TV and also to the things she may witness you and your other family members doing.
Also, enforce dicipline and be consistent regarding this behavior.
2007-03-27 09:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by J. P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where does she get this behavior from? She is getting it from someone. My daughter is six and she has ATTITUDE but I realize she gets this from me . At first I denied it but people made me realize that she is a mini me. Everyone needs to be careful how they act in front of there children even though we think they are not paying attention they are . So my advice to you is to be caeful how you or other people act in front of her.It could also be what she watches on tv or children at school.
2007-03-27 09:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mam29 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refuse to tolerate disrespect, or it will just get worse! I would recomend you make sure she can expect a spanking, when she is rude like that! I raised two, and they are now very respecful, successful grown ups.
2007-03-27 09:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Steve C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋