i really like this guy, hes 40 and im 24. we get on really well but hes never asked me out. hes made it clear that he like me a lot and people have commented on how much he looks at me and kinda follows me around. if i dont do something, he wont either. what should i do and how should i ask?
2007-03-27 02:07:21 · 21 answers · asked by Bunnygirl24 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey chick......Ignore this lot.....I'm 40 going on 18 and my wife of 10 years younger said to me, 'are you gonna ask me out on a date or just keep staring at my boobs.' that did it, got married, first rug rat on the way......
Good luck....Just remember theres 40 and theres 40 going on 18...
2007-03-27 03:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you need to be careful about dating this guy as the age gap is so big, there could be a lot of differences.....
He may not be asking you out because he is thinking exactly that, and he may find you attractive but probably doesn't know what people will think if he asks a 24yr old women out.... Don't get persuaded by others who are sniggering and laughing in the background, because although they may be telling the truth, people do like hype and gossip so make your own mind up about this one...
But I would say if you are not closley attached friends, and you both can feel some sort of chemistry between the two of you, then I would ask him out - as you have nothing to lose and you could only feel regret if you don't... It might turn out for the better, especially if you ask subtly...
But if he says no, shrug your shoulders, don't get all worked up and just laugh it off with him and stay friends.
there is plenty more sardines in the can! good luck my lil friend.
2007-03-27 02:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, he has not asked you out because he does not want to. He looks at you and follows you around because he likes what he see... just not enough to go for it. While 40 is not ancient and I can understand the appeal of an older man, I really do. I think he is weary of all the effects the age difference will have in the long run. This way you are responsible for whatever happens. I am a firm believer that a man should make the first move. Believe me when they are interested they usually do...
2007-03-27 02:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by gutsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty sizable age difference, and you're still very young. In 10 or 12 years, the gap wouldn't seem quite so bad, but at your age, those 16 years amounts to a world of life experience.
He is exercising prudence and good judgment. It is very possible that even if you ask him out, he will continue to exercise those virtues and decline your offer.
You might also consider the possibility that there's a reason he's not asking you out. He might be hiding a live-in gf, a long-distance gf, a fiancée, a wife from whom he's separated...something.
You should try to put this out of your mind and not ask.
2007-03-27 02:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is afraid of the public coments a 40yr dating a 24yr old or he has another woman of his age in his life.. If you are confortible moving out with him, just bring it as a sugetion to him "sweetie shall we have lunch at a restaurant today" if he accepts,try it another time he will get used.
Girl think twice dating this guy coz the age difference is quite big tho they say age is just number. Imagine leaving you a widow at an early age with one or two kids.
2007-03-27 02:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Musumba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're having conversations. Start by asking him what he usually do during his free time then follow the question up with where does he usually go... then appreciate it and emphasize how you wished to go to the same place then perhaps you could say, even in jest, that maybe it would be nicer if you go there together
2007-03-27 02:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy and feel that you could make a go of it with him then just come right out and say how you feel about him as he may be thinking the same things you are
2007-03-27 02:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by big evil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 40 years old, he should already know what he wants and how to get it. I think he likes you but is not wanting to date you and make you a girlfriend.
Give him a couple of subtle hints, like "you really nice", or "you have nice eyes". If he doesn't pick up on this, he doesn't want you.
Let it go after that.
2007-03-27 02:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. It looks like you guys are fairly shy round every different nonetheless. You will have to wait till you guys arnt shy around each different purpose in case you guys went out, it might be quite awkward, believe me. Haha
2016-08-10 22:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by anekey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no where ur coming from cos i have the same problem, i just hint that i like him and hope for the best (but the thing is i no he likes me but his mates hate me) i went out with most of his mates lol (i'#m NOT a slag k lol
2007-03-27 02:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋