I've been single for a while and I've kind of met this bloke, he's not the first bloke that has shown interest or asked me out in my single time but he's the first one I haven't rejected which surprised me when he asked me out the yes was automatic and I surprised myself. The thing is this is all really new to me as normally my relationships are very intense at the start then a couple of years down the line I've usually had enough and totally bored. It all feels a bit strange really and there seems to be no issues or pressures which I am enjoying and I don't have the usual intense feelings and does he like me or not feelings I do at the start of relationships but something about the situation feels right, and even just spending the smallest amount of time with him makes me smile for the rest of the day it weird cos he's also physically nothing like my usual type of bloke either but I do find him attractive. Does this all sound normal? have any of you experienced this weirdness before?
2007-03-27 01:48:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As you've mentioned, you've been single for a while now and its quite possible in that time you've been single your attitude towards realtionships and dating has changed. It sounds like you've become more mature. When we're younger, relationships tend to be a lot more intense and filled with obsessive anxieties about whether he likes you, whether he'll call etc. We also focus more on the physical side initally. It sounds to me though like you've had some time alone and you're now a lot more chilled out and relaxed. You enjoy spending time with him and you're having fun and you clearly like him. Its a good thing its not so intense because like you said, you end up getting bored 2 years down the line. Just keep enjoying your time together an I hope it works out for you!
2007-03-27 03:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the first year of my relationship with my biyfriend i only saw him 2 or 3 times a week 2 of those were only for 2 hours at a time, we took things slow and didnt let our love burn out.
we have been together three years now have our own place together and are very very much in love and planning to get married.
all my other relationships were so intense and always seeing eachother that they burnt out quicker.
i know what your going through and its great, just keep enjoying it.
2007-03-27 08:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird at all. Some relationships that were intense at the beginning lose steam right away, so starting mellow is a good sign. Enjoy the discovery of "what could be", have fun.
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2007-03-27 08:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? It's not all tension and stress, and that makes it weird? :)
Seriously... if you've found a relationship that you can start out emotionally stable, don't you think that says something positive about it being more likely to last? Roller coasters are fun, but then the ride is over. If this one feels more like a horse-drawn carriage ride of happiness -- maybe it will last longer.
2007-03-27 08:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my lady, you have meet someone who connects with your mind and your senses and has the ability to communicate with your inner self , and is not just all physical. This may be the best lover you ever had, you will just have to give it a chance. Also, you are sort of "burned out " with the usual men, I have same problem with women. I recently was just talking to a very younge lady for me, see I am 57 and she did me the same way. Watch out baby, you will fall hard for this one, I did. G
2007-03-27 08:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really like this guy so, stop worrying and enjoy the time together. Maybe this is Mr right???? Hope things work out for you Good Luck
2007-03-27 08:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by sarah25779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on you will be fine, just act normal & if your feelings alter just discuss with him & change from your normal routine & add a bit of spice.
You never know he may end up your best friend & life long partner,
be honest & faithful to him & demand the same in return
Good luck, be happy, don't nag him & best wishes to you both
2007-03-27 09:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me hunni, like your attracted to this guy more than you actually realise!
Well done for you....you sound like you've been hurt in the past and maybe now you are over the hurt and ready to go into a new relationship!
Don't fight it babe - just enjoy yourself and don't question too much!
2007-03-27 08:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me theres a chemistry between you, sometimes it just feels right. Go with the flow enjoy it, hope he is the one you never know. I can hear wedding bells here ha ha . have a great time .
2007-03-27 08:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Enjoy yourself, don't stress over whether or not it's normal. It sounds like a good thing to me.
2007-03-27 08:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋