my friends is in a long distance relationship. him and his girlfriend have been appart for 5 years but still claim they are a couple. he really does love her, but considers that if she has cheated on him even once, then it is over! ladies, any chance she hasnt?(she claims she hasnt)
2007-03-27 01:42:06 · 18 answers · asked by Hitch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the interresting thing to me is, why would she claim that she hasnt, keeps on calling the guy some times, when he tries to break it up she fights for them to stay togheter...i mean why?..(they have seen each other a couple of times during holidays)
2007-03-27 01:50:16 · update #1
Hmm long-distance relationships are VERY hard to keep up, especially over a long period like 5yrs. The most difficult thing about a long-distance relationship is the no-sex part. Personally I couldn't live that way! So there's probably a BIG possibility that the girl is cheating, unless she is either celibate(i.e., waiting until marriage or else prudish), crazy-busy with work/career, or in an environment with no boys(e.g., working as a nun amongst other sisters at a church or Catholic school).
The reasons that I stated, are the reason that I firmly believe in the concept of an "open relationship" with long-distance couples. So that they can date around, get sexually satisfied, and have a life, but still keep in touch with their partner and get together with them whenever possible. Besides, what if you hold out for someone for 5yrs and then when you two reunite together again, you realize that both of you have changed in different ways and are now incompatible? You will feel like you wasted 5yrs that you coulda been out there dating, having fun, and looking for someone else that was possibly more compatible.
2007-03-27 01:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your friend there is being a little domineering in that category...ok, lemme get this straight...
5 year LDR....but still a couple, yet your friend says that he will break up with her if he found out that she ever cheated during that time?
Hmm....chances are huge that has she has gotten some needs meet by another. I mean c'mon....5 years, dude? Its time to either poop or get off the toilet after 5 years!!!
But every single case is different. She could been pining away for him with a chastity belt on for 5 years.
Or not.
How faithful as your LOVE DICTATOR friend been, by the way?
2007-03-27 08:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it depends on a couple of things. First, why is it a long distance relationship? School? Work?
Second, what kind of person is she...and has HE cheated on HER??
The relationship will either work or it won't, but I must agree that it really is no business of yours.
2007-03-27 08:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by cocacolachickee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is cheating, then she may lie, but that almost doesn't really matter. what matters here is that your friend is insecure and doesn't trust her. (Has he cheated on her? Sometimes, people who cheat are the first to accuse.)
They either need to move closer to each other...which may alleive your friend's suspicions or verify them. How long do they intend to have a "long distance" relationship? Doesn't sound like a good deal to me.
It is very possible that she is not cheating, but as I said, if he doesn't trust her, they may as well end it and move on.
2007-03-27 08:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 5 years she has or she should have. How could you say that you are in a relationship and have been apart for 5 years? And how could you expect someone to be loyal? That is a lot to ask.
2007-03-27 08:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
five years is a long time to be faithful in a long distance relationship. now if she is in college or has something to occupy her time its possible she is faithful. some women like to hang out with their girly-friends and consider that not cheating. Its possible.
2007-03-27 08:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by pegasis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a really long time. But there are some women like myself who if really loves a man, will not cheat on them. But odds are she's messed around once or twice....figuratively speaking.
2007-03-27 08:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by DnBprincess850 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure, yeah right. She's probably married with kids by now. 5 years apart and no one has thought of relocating to be together....someone's living in a fantasy
2007-03-27 08:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by LaLa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it is hard for me to answer this question because I don't know her. If he has no reason to doubt her than he should stay with her. She doesn't have a reason to lie to him so why would she. On the other hand maybe she has cheated on him and is just afraid to hurt him. One can never know for sure.
2007-03-27 08:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume she's lying?
And what business is it of yours?
If her boyfriend trusts her and believes in her, you have no right to introduce doubts and questions into his mind. There's every chance that you're being the "bad guy" in this scenario, so just stop pestering at them about it.
2007-03-27 08:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jarien 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋