He used to be such a pleasant boy, really well mannered and friendly, now we ask him to do a couple of things around the house and he turns into Kevin! won't speak to you, turns his back on you when you ask him whats wrong etc. is it just hormones? or is there anything i can do?
2007-03-27 01:32:03 · 15 answers · asked by CazW 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he's good at school but recently had a mood on with his afterschool teachers so we had a big talk and he apologised. No problem with his friends either.
2007-03-27 01:37:37 · update #1
he's been kind of bullied in the past and i think we have a good relationship where he talks to me about anything like that.
2007-03-27 01:48:33 · update #2
Yep. I have 10 year old boy and same thing here.Hes a great kid,well mannered,well behaved,no probs.BUT SOMETIMES ITS LIKE HES HAD A PERSONALITY CHANGE! (if i ask him to make his bed that means HE DOES EVERYTHING AROUND HERE! )Sometimes I think -"is this the same little boy i took to school this morning...?" If you make a big thing of it though-they play on it and it gets worse.Take yesterday-came home,face on him like thunder.I asked wots wrong?NOWT! So i basically left him to it-which is how i deal with it.He strutted about a bit,threw himself on his bed(which had just been freshly changed and remade by me-arrrggghhh!)i didn`t say a word, then he went out to play.Later he was fine-nice little boy again-demons gone home.I think they kinda feel piggy in the middle at this age-too old to play games with mum,yet too young to go anywhere alone?Of course you have to be sure theres no bullying going on,but you can do this by getting them talking when they`re in a good mood-at bedtime when they`re wound down,just start up a little convo about how your day was-and ask how his day was-did anything exciting happen,what did he have for lunch,did he enjoy playtime etc? It works.
Kids eh? Who`d av em?
( As_It_Is & a75hud obviously don`t have kids-and hopefully never will....)
2007-03-27 03:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my do I know this feeling,
My eldest son is 10 and he likes to argue. He tries to argue a lot!! I'll listen to what he has to say and if he's right I'll tell him so, but if I am in the right I have him look up what ever he's arguing about so that he has the answers from another source. He still is a very well mannered boy and I love him to pieces. But there are days when he argues just one time to many and it's up to his room before I blow a gasket.
Just keep the lines of communication open with him. Pull him aside and go for a walk, let him know he can come to you. He'll be fine and he'll know that he can count on you to be there for him.
When it comes to my son's I Don't allow the behavior to extend beyond the house... I talk to them about it, remind both of them of the rules we have and how I expect them to act in public.
Good luck to us both... we'll make it through and they'll be the better for it... you'll see.
Blessed be
2007-03-27 10:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by CarynB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It maybe something more serious but it also sounds like hormones. My 10 year old son acts the same way. I thought he was bipolar or something , then I started to talk to other parents with 10 year olds. I think it is just a phase.
2007-03-27 22:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by cna2rn78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and look at the environment in your house. Is there a dad in the picture? How many siblings does he have? How is his relationship with them? How often does he get to spend time with his mother? Is your dicipline consistent? DO you speak to him on HIS level? (eye to eye instead of talking down to him)
Child anger can stem from many things within the household and may not always be chemical.
Please try and take a look at the simple, changeable things before you consider chemical treatment of any kind (which can often do more harm them good)
2007-03-27 09:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by J. P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep defo puberty!
I look after my 10 yr old brother and it's like having a testosterone bull in the house! Puffin and blowing and slammin doors.......and then as nice as pie the next minute, ( I'm single and its worse than having a husband!!)
Just leave him to it as theres not much you can do - because I have spoken to my bro about whats happening to his body I just remind him of this when he's going into one and then he realises himsef!
I joke with him and say " oh are your hormones kickin in again are they?" and he ends up calming down - or just leave him to sulk he always comes round!
I know how you feel love ....good luck - we both need it!
2007-03-27 08:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by EMA 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
HA!...welcome to my world. I have a ten year old girl..and wooooooboy. Thank heaven for the law!, cause she REAAAALLLLLY pushs us to the brink of insanity at times.
Yea........it's hormones. It's kinda weird for them now, but they will adjust to them better in the next few years.....we hope
: S
Umm......make sure you keep an eye on them. They might try to act like innocent little kids (like the ones you loved and always knew) but deep inside lurks a monster that just may be....umm..NOT telling everything.
Good luck to us both.
2007-03-27 08:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him. Point out he cannot behave badly & ask him what's the matter. Keep asking. By adult standards what's on his mind might only be a small thing, but to a boy so young, it might seem to be unsolvable, perplexing... making him feel angry & resentful...
(I don't go along with the hormonal change argument).
I know children behave this way when they are being bullied.
2007-03-27 08:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bullying... pressure cooker build up cant deal in school takes out on you...
Early hormones
possible drugs ie things like solvents
OR STIMULANTS LIKE CAFFINE IE RED BULL DRINKS ARE NOT SOFT DRUNKS BUT A DRUG SIMILAR BUT NOT AS STRONG TO COCAINE.
Possible food additive reaction.
Too many computergames...
Other form of abuse from someon else.
Trying to be a man as not got a good male role model... ie needs a tough cool girl pulling male to be like or may be agro to assertive manhood all wrong as thats what gang types are doing so emulating them instead.
If thats the case you have a major problem which needs to be dealt with as you have to take back control and infulence with a better role model or you kid will end up in gangs.
Note gangs are using 8 year olds to carry drugs and weapons for them.
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The best sort of male role model may be say dad whos in the coast guard doing tough brave adventure things or get him into mum scaring sports like snowboarding where the older boys snowboard off cliffs to prove manhood are an bit naughty and get lots of girls...
Likewise surfers etc as they have peacdeful cultures and positive ways to prove himself.
2007-03-27 11:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know, it's probably just normal growing up but you don't want to find out down the road that he was really suffering and you didn't help him when he really needed it. Take him to his physician to have him checked out and talk to a school guidance counselor.
2007-03-27 08:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it could puberty/hormones or he could just be acting up for the sake of it you just need to make sure you take control you are the parent you need to disipline him what he is doing is a severe lack of respect i did all that when i was 9/10 i got warned and then got a good smack bum and told dont you dare be so rude i soon learnt
2007-03-27 10:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by kt 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋