My life is miserable, what should i do?

Question

I stopped studying last year because my father has no work anymore. I was supposed to be on my 4th yr. chemical engineering. Now, i´m working as an english instructor at the same time supporting my family, my mother is a drunkard, my youngest brother is only 3 yrs. old and i have another brother and a sister, we are now 5 members because my father is now with his other family, he left us. I´m left with no other choice but to work earning $200/month, what should i do? How am i going to support my family? They have no one to depend on but me.. my mother knows nothing but household chores and in our place, people doesn´t need maids. I really think our life is miserable... :(

I´m only 20 yrs. old and a very healthy lady and somehow good looking...
Would it be ok if i marry someone who is rich but old guy?
Damn! I´m desperate!!

Answer 1

well, maybe God's wish for you to meet as many bad people as you can before meeting a good one... only then you'll be greatful.

Answer 2

Hi, I am so sorry to hear that your future plans were shut down but I must say you are a very strong person and just try your best to keep your head up. I know you must be going through a hell of alot right now but just keep pushing and never give up there is something that will happen soon to help you through this something that you will not even expect for you and your family.

Ya know there must be someone as well that can help you with your financial distress. Is there not agency's that can help you with food and things in the community? There has got to be something but in the mean time your doing great and it may seem like things will never get any better but you just keep doing what your doing things will turn out just hang on.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Things might appear to be bad for you right now but I find that there is usually a reason for everything that happens. You must have the bad to appreciate the good. My suggestion is to accept that you are where you are right now and that any decisions you have made in the past were the correct decisions for your present level of awareness. Picture in your mind what you really want in life and you will find that it will all work out in the end. Dwelling over any past experiences will only make things worse. Try to get hold of a self help book, such as "The Power Of Now". You should find that it will put you in a mind frame set where very little will bother you in your life.

Answer 4

Sweetie,your mother needs to get out and get a job.She needs to pick up the pieces of her life,and you need to study,because it is something you want to do.I do understand you want to help your family also,and it is very mature of you.Your mother can learn how to do something,other than household chores,or even get a job cleaning homes.However,i think that she can get training,on the job.Most jobs will train and do train their employees.She needs to get a job,you cant and shouldnt be carrying the entire load.Helping out sure,but she needs to pick up some of the weight as well.Sit down with her,and speak to her.Look at this way,your life isnt miserable.It could be tons worse,and you are just hitting a tough spot right now,but keep your head high and dont give up.Soon it will pass.Good luck hun and have a good day!Keep smiling!

Answer 5

Some information on your native country or where you live and your age might have been useful. Whatever the case may be you clearly need help. Look up more comfortable family members, try a religious organization or social welfare. But most importantly keep your faith and pray hard. Wish I knew how I could be of more direct assistance. May the good Lord be with you.

Answer 6

That's horrible - you need serious help.
Firstly, do refuse to pay for any alcohol, that's the start. Then get your dad to support his family - yes, I know you say he's out of work but he can go and teach people English too.
Then go back to school!
Is there a minister you can talk to? You should not be taking on this burden by yourself.

Answer 7

hi,
first let me say how noble it is of you to take on such a big responsibility.
try to get your mom to go to the local AA program if you have to tell her if she doesn't you will file for custody of the little ones. if she goes and sticks with it she will be able to help you by getting a part time job, tell her that she has to help you.
if she doesn't go to the local AA program call the child care center and report her, this may seem harsh but it has to be done or you and your brothers and sisters will only be going down hill, at first they will try to take the kid but you express that you want to keep your sibling together. make sure that you have all the papers you need to prove that you can care for them with some help from them, be adamant about that part. also be adamant that you just want them to help you and the others not separate them from their mom, the you just want to make thing better for your siblings, report your dad as a debt dad so that you can get a support check from him to help with the little ones,
i wish you the best of luck in your noble endeavor, and i hope that things workout for you and your family,

Answer 8

Your mother could get involved in home health care.Or adult foster care.She could also be a dishwasher at a restuarant.Is it possible for you to get a second parttime job.This could help supplement the paycheck.Of course your mother first needs to stop drinking.See if you can get her in some kind of rehab.She can learn new skills .You are never too old to learn something new.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry that you are in this position. Are there any other distant family members that can help you out? You cannot do this alone. There may be community programs that can help you out. Maybe even if you talk with your family doctor they can offer advice to you or refer you to someone else who can help, maybe a social worker. It's worth the shot.

Answer 10

hi there! jus want to encourage you and let you know that there are people out there who have it worse than u do.right now am 21 and ma dad nor anyone else in our family is working so am the only one they can look up to and thou its difficult and at times i feel like giving up i alwayz pray to God to give me strentgh thru it all and jus know that God never gives u a situation that u can't be able to handle.dont worry too much as he says that no one can add a single day to his life by worrying about it be strong becoz your family is looking up to you. may God bless you.

Answer 11

well to cheer ur self up think how fortunate you are that u have shelter and a job.....if ur onlymaking 200 a month that i shard to support ur whole family...can't u try to apply for a security job or something? u could send ur mother to a detox rehab and have her declare herself unable to care for her self so they can pay for her rehab.....i dunno how that works but i have heard of it. tell ur mom that if she wants ur support she HAS TO SOBER UP. u should tell her that if in any event she does not listen, you willno longer be responsible for her b/c u have a whole failly to take care of. maybe you can call ur dad up and ask for a loan or actually i think he owes u money. these are just ideas pls dont take n e of this the wrong way. the fact that you have left ur dreams for supporting your family is awesome..iwish you good luck for ur future.