I work at an office by day and run a hot spot night club by night,have a very active social life as well as having a boyfriend who I've been with for 9 months.He's had an issue with how little he gets to see me,ever since he made me manager of the club he owns 3 months ago and lately he's been complaining a lot that I never make time for us and that everything comes before him.Last Friday him and his best friend were in a car accident leaving him with a broken arm and a concussion.His friend wasn't so lucky and got quite a few broken bones but he's expected to make a full recovery.My boyfriend tried calling me once they got to the hospital but I was out partying and didn't get his voice mail until 18 hours later.Now he's dumped me saying he's had enough of taking last place on my list of priorities.Isn't he overreactng?My phone was set to vibrate and I couldn't have known he'd call.
2007-03-27 01:11:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
* Yeah guy always over react BUT how would you feel if he did exactley what you did im not saying you did something wrong but think about it did you really pay enough attention to him ? *
2007-03-27 01:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have mistakes. If he wants you to have time with him then why did he give you an obligation that would surely takes more of you time? He also works in the same club at night so how come you don't have time to be together? On the other hand you still have mistakes. You said that you are not able to get his voicemail until 18 hrs? Do you mean you are out partying for that long and don't even have time to check your mail even if it is in vibration mode? It seems that you are really enjoying your time darling. You must understand that he has been in an accident and was hurt and don't have the one who he expect to be at his side but instead is out partying. You should Prove to him that he is your priority if, and only if he really is.
2007-03-27 08:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by milfeulle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not over-reacting girl, if u r in a commited relationship, there needs to be some 'together time'. You were being a bit too busy with your social life and career, he'd obviously feel ignored. My advice is to say sorry to him. Give him more time. If you can't live without your social group, make him a member of that group, or maybe go for romantic dinners. Make him feel that he is special, coz he is.
2007-03-27 08:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels bad because you seem too busy for him. This does not mean that you do not love him, but 18 hours later?? Who does not check their phone for 18 hours?? Seems a bit strange, but whatever. If you want to stay in a relationship with him you will need to make time for him and your relationship. If he made you manager and you do not have time because of this, then explain it to him. It seems like if you do not want to stop your busy social life then you will be ok and better off single. You need to evaluate what you want and if this guy is worth your time and attention.
2007-03-27 08:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a bad choice to always make him last priority...you didnt get the message until 18 hours later?? you didnt think to look at your phone for 18 hous? I find that hard to believe. If you really care for him you need to think of something really romantic and try to win him back and prove that he will not be last on your list anymore.
2007-03-27 08:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm surprised it took him this long to leave you, I hate nothing worse than not having enough attention, he was on the bottom of your priorities, if you want him back which I seriously doubt, you better make sure you move him up. And if I was in a wreck and you were my mate and you didn't come, oh boy. Just start thinking about others.
2007-03-27 08:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to fix the relationship. you arent going to be able to gain full trust for a while but just work through it. i think you out partying is what bothers him because the time he really needed you and you could have proved your loyalty towards him, you werent around. always check your cell phone while out because a real emergency could arise and maybe you were the only one that could help. ex. one of your friends got kidnapped and they were able to sneak away for just a min and make a phone call and u were who they called. and now u see it 18 hours later and they have been raped and killed.
think more seriously about your relationship and make sure he knows you care. he wasnt overreacting, just try to see how he feels.
2007-03-27 08:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by lillizzybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not overreacting. He obviously really cared about you if he was so worried about you not spending enough time together. Try talk to him and explain you didn't have your priorities set straight(that is if you really feel that) and that he is a very important part of your life but you like to have a balance. Good luck
2007-03-27 08:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
you are a woman with a insight on what you want, he gave you he job right, he must have wanted to see you make a success out of it right. so there you were not wrong. but when it comes to the neglect that he feels it is really there.you are too into your job to into your career and need to hand some of the work over to an assistant manager and spend some time with him. so in that matter you did neglect him.
2007-03-27 08:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st) If your in a committed relationship, why are you out partying so much and without him? What you did wrong is not calling your supposedly man for 18 hours. Wow, I'm glad he dumped you. What man would stand around while his girlfriend is out partying everyday and not calling or seeing him for 18 hours.
2007-03-27 08:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u shud pay a attention for ur boyfrend, although just a little im sure that he's happy. u partying for 18 hours?? do u ever thought taking ur boyfrend wid u? party n introduce u 2 ur frends? im sure that he's not "really" overreacting cuz i think that if u dun hve time 2 call him or seeing him i think that makes him think that u'r cheating on sumbody. if u want ur relationship back, u shud xplain 2 him wat happen, n sacrifice sth 2 him (if u want) that makes him think that u still care boud him.
2007-03-27 08:24:40 · answer #11 · answered by institutionalized 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋