Once the love of your life has gone.. is it actually possible to love like that again??

Question

thanks everyone... feels like my heart has been ripped out and trodden on and so low you could scrap me off of the floor!!

Answer 1

Well I can understand your pain - I thought I found someone i could trust and love, but I turned out to be a joke and he lied about loving me in the end anyway..... It took a long time for me to get over him, but the strange thing was, I was getting over him when I was with him; because we argued so much, and he ignored me when he could, I was reduced to drowning my sorrows through alcohol and drugs.... Which I had done before, but the amount taken had increased dramatically. He always saw me as someone who was pathetic and needed to 'grow' up, but couldn't himself face the consequences of his own mistakes and descisions.
He had told me once, that one day we would become so close we would be inseperable - I found it hard to believe as I am quite defensive, but eventually his words were drilled into my head and I believed him. After a while we broke up, and the first night I cried so much I felt like my heart was being pulled in all directions.... I thought we were soul mates, inseperable, marriage material, and that I could trust him with the sensitve information about my past - I was wrong...We promised never to talk to each other again for as long as we live, and I still think of him everyday, but his once overwhelming power over me is dulling down now, and I am recovering......
This isn't all about me but I would just like this to enlighten you and to point out that, even though you may think you have found the love of your life, they could just be a person who had treated you with more respect than others, and is important in your life 'now'. But even though it takes time to heal you will find someone else, they could be better, or worse, but in the end life is some huge learning curve which you just have to ride with.....Make your own descisions based on what you want and what is right for you, not anyone else - just learn to move on and love you first, and be a whole person, than you can find another whole person to make a perfect item.... good luck hun

Answer 2

Yes. My first love I found was just practice for what I found later. Before my first love, I barely had a liking for anybody. But with him everything felt perfect all the time. Every thought was always of him. After the break-up I felt like someone had actually removed a piece of my body. It took months to recover. I kept busy and eventually I realized it didn't hurt so bad. I told myself that I'd learned a valuable lesson, how to love someone. Thought it would never happen again. Then I met my husband and learned that love can come more than once in a lifetime and each time will be more intense and more true than the last. Becuz by then, you know what your heart desires.

Answer 3

Depending on what you mean by GONE, I believe time heals.If its a case of divorce I am sure you may keep asking yourself what you may have done better to maintain the relationship and it will take time to move on because you are afraid of being hurt again however I think it is possible to meet someone whom you will love though you may still compare but you have a chance at happiness again. On the other hand if its a case of death which is most painful since its out of our control you can love again with the consolation that there was nothing anyone could have done to avoid it. This doesn't mean the pain will disappear but at least you can if you find someone you really like. Its a matter of giving one's self time to heal and work things out in your head, try to accept the inevitable and move on.

Answer 4

I woz in the exact same situation babes...it is possible jus takes time. Unfortunately you jus hav to bear the hurt til it subsides....when it does try to take the positives from this although its hard for you to see it now. You saw somet amazing in this person so next time round you'll have a more rounded idea of the special someone thats right for you. Next time around you'll be a stronger person but a wiser one too. Good luck babes x x

Answer 5

Yes it is possible to love again after lost love. I was truly in love with a man that treated me so good, i had never known love such as what he gave to me, he was tall, handsome and sexy and someone i never thought i would or could have in my life, we had our ups and downs, but in the end i knew he was who i would spend the rest of my life with, i was proud to be with him, i never loved anyone like i loved him.. on Feb 3, 2003 (we met Feb 4, 1999) he passed away after being on life support for 8 days after having a surgery to repair a burst blood vessel, he ended up with 3 kinds of blood infections from the surgerys, he had full blown hep c (from a home made tattoo), I watched him take his last breath, and cry his last tear, and 9 days before that he told me he was the luckiest man in the world, bc he had ME! To this day, I still cry so hard for him even tho.. yes I have remarried to a wonderful man who knows what ive been thru and he understands that is part of my life, but he loves me so much, and i never ever thought that i would find anyone that could love me as much as the man i lost 4 years ago.. but i did.. and so yes it is possible, it may not happen overnight but it can happen..

Answer 6

Sometimes, you can never get over it, and it will be hard to love and trust again, i am in the same boat, i can't find someone that i can love the same, i am finding it very difficult, the trouble is they hurt us and they move on so quickly, life is hard, i am sorry to say it will be very hard, just be strong, hold your head high, you have to turn round and say it was not meant to be. Try hard to move on, Good luck

Answer 7

Yes you can but it takes time and it depends on the way your love went,in most cases it takes a short time when you get a substitute who is even better than the one before. To me you can really love again.

Answer 8

Yes, but it's difficult to work through the pain of dealing with the first being out of your life. Give yourself time and love will happen when you least expect.

Answer 9

Yes, but it will have a variation.

It's also possible to love like that to many different people at the same time.

Answer 10

i really don't know what to say because i just ended my relationship with my girlfriend yesturday, which really hurts like a b**** cuz i really felt like i was in love with her and she could have been my future wife. but to answer your question, maybe you can find love again. but first i would like to know why you broke up in the first place. because for all you know even if something stupid or unforgiveable happened, you might end up back together if it was meant to be. but if it was not meant to be, im sure that God would help you find that special someone that you were meant to love.