Why do guys try to play me?

Question

I don't understand why guys try to play me. I am very smart, pretty, successful, independent, and mature. I live in a nice home, drive a nice car, and pay my own bills all at the age of 23. I am not clingy or needy. Yet, it seems that guys always try to play me for young, immature females. What's up with that?

Answer 1

If you are dating guys the same age as you....that's jst the way they are at that age. They want to be with as many women as possible at that age. You sound as if you are on the right track, but most guys that age are not established. Remember how in high school people used to say girls develop sooner than guys.... it is the same thing in your 20s and early 30s. Then eventually guys will want to settle down. I went through that....then I started dating older guys because they have been around enough women to know a good one when they find one, and are more interested in being with one person than trying to date a bunch of people. Plus I had to look at it this way. As a professional..most guys are intimidated by that. Alot of guys have the ego thing going and they want to feel as if they are running things so they may try to get a younger girl who will be more impressed with what they have, even though you already have it. you know what i mean?

Answer 2

All females are clingy and needy in some ways or another, that's a fact you got to recognize.

A guy like to play with a young female no matter who she is and who she think she is, that's a fact you got to recognize.



It should be noted a guy don't care if a girl have or think she have the following things:

- intelligence
- independence
- 'maturity'

Those are NOT what a guy want, nor a guy will see those existed in a girl, at best a guy can only pretend a girl have those things.

If a guy said he only date a girl with intelligence, he either lied or was brainwashed.

Answer 3

First of all , what do you mean by play you?! Do you mean that they cheat or leave you for a younger female?! What is immature?! What type of guys are you dating?! The attributes by which you define yourself are things that an older man or a man seeking to settle down would choose, but a younger man would probably want a young girl with whom he would feel superior. You are smart, independent, and successful, so you might want to find a guy who is above you as most guys( not all) are on a power trip. Even if one is slightly above you, he will not feel threatened by your independence. The guys you have been dating may have been put off by your ego. They liked you, but you seem to laud your achievements over them. They felt insecure and threatened and chose a "safer" option. Tone down your success a bit if you want men such as these, or you need to associate with men of your stature or higher. Where do these men hand out?! probably not in clubs, but in the office to get ahead. You may catch them at the health club doing a power work out, or eating. You need to identify the qualities in a man you desire and find out where such men are and just be there. Guys your age are just enjoying their freedom and aren't always aware of what may be present to them. They may wake up a few years from now. Your phone may ring off the hook when you're 30. Don't be surprised. Whether or not you are available then is another story.

Answer 4

first of all, where do you meet these guys ? in a club ? or somewhere decent ?
second, how do you present yourself?
if all these guys are just playing you then you're probably giving off a, "im stupid, use me and ditch me" kind of impression without being aware of it. it's easy to fall into this trap when you think you've met the right guy & he's really perfect & sweet for the first couple of days/weeks whatever.. and then you've fallen for him. Also, there are heaps of jerks out there so don't think it's just you thats unlucky.
Next time you meet a guy that you think just might be the one, don't be so trusting, keep a guard up for a bit and see how he reacts to it, but also don't seem too reluctant because he might just give up on you. If all else fails, maybe you should get like a really good friend to set you up with a guy and see how that goes..
good luck

Answer 5

My dear beaning smart, pretty,successful,independent t and
mature that does not mean anything to them if they want to play you they do ,they come with all type of tricks which we as women fall in to it with out knowing that they just want to play us. If you are used to take them to your place stop taking them to your place and let them be the man. see if this will help but don't loss hope god is with you .God will answer you one day that you dint expect that when you will see true love

Answer 6

this would indicate that the men are finding it hard to try and match themselves to your youthful success. i would probably guess jealousy plays a part in thier behaviour. or they just dontknow how to treat a lady. unlike me. i would sing to you before you slept, i would spoon with you after a long night of hot and passionate love-making. i would cry in front of you. and wipe your *** if necessary. and would call you 20 times a day. im not clingly...i just have needs. IS THAT TOO MUCH FOR A MAN TO ASK??? AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Answer 7

I say this respectfully. You should perhaps ask yourself what you would like to see in a man. Then restrict yourself to such men if you can. You must also remember that in our modern world not all women are the same. Some expect men to be clingy and complain when they are not. Other women expect men to be a breadwinner type man or else he is seen as a deadbeat. In truth it is not as easy to define women as it is to define men. In a world where females are becoming more and more emancipated, it is becoming harder for men to acknowlege what every individual woman would expect not just in the dating scene but even at the workplace. The role(if one exists) of women is still in transition. Each idividual woman rates him by her own standards. Men are often confused as to what to do. In a world where successful women are growing in number it does present difficulties when it comes to gender interaction especially where dating is concerned. Self-relient women such as yourself honestly do not require a man. If you do (and I say this in all earnesty), you must ask yourself what is it you need a man for? In the past it was an important consideration for women to pick their men carefully as they were wholly dependent on husbands for support. It was therefore natural for men to present themselves as worthy candidates by a show of their wealth or brawn. So guys may not be 'playing you' as you put it, but rather you may have 'outgrown' the regular guy. You may not however have outgrown Love. Instead of loathing the men you are with now, perhaps you should seek out men you can admire. Men who can appreciate you for who you are and are able to communicate on deeper levels than ordinary men. Men who are not intimidated by your ehnanced evolution but can bring out the best in you and can allow you to bring out the best in them. Such men do exist. I hope I have not said too much, and thank you for allowing me to have my say. I hope you will from the company of more enlightened men, find one who will overwhelm your heart with Love. Of course, if it is love that you are looking for in a man.

Answer 8

obviously you intimedate them cuz some guys have admitted to me that they think im to good but they wanna try anywayz,and if they prefer the immature females then you dont want them anyway because they are childish and still wanna be on those games

Answer 9

are sexy, cute, good in bed that is the best way. these days anyone, whatever u call it, beautiful successful or independent in ur house doesn't mean anything. good sex is most important. try ur best and would get someone right now

Answer 10

guys try 2 play every 1... from their 20s to heir 30s thats how they are...but the day u find a guy who doesnt play u...keep him