We talk heaps and then not at all. We have some of the same interests. I really like him. He's nice to me. Then today i noticed he was talking to someone else and nearly the whole time he would keep glancing at me over her shoulder. Or he would just be looking at me and then looking away. I don't understand how we can talk so much one time and then another he doesn't even say one word to me. So i really like him but the way things are going i'm just about ready to move on.I can't put up with the hot and cold all of the time,it drives me insane. what is he doing?what should i do?
2007-03-27 00:44:30 · 16 answers · asked by debra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is trying to see how far he can keep you on a string and how many other girls he can chat with as well without you getting upset. Confront him about what it is that he wants. It's not healthy or fair for him to be so off & on with you. If he has no good answer for you , forget him and move on. He'll regret it in the long run.
2007-03-27 00:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your talking heaps are you alone?
Do other people know that he talks to you?
Ok its like this some guys are all over you when you are alone or act like they want to be around you. Then they go about their business and pretend you don't exist around other people.
If he is doing this you might as well forget it he is trying to see how far he can get with you but no one else can know because he is not looking for a relationship with you. Your just someone to play with behind closed doors.
In order to find this out because you need to know for sure if it is the case. You have some work to do.
It may be hard for you to do it but his reaction will tell you what you need to know.
One thing you can try is start talking to him in front of other people school, work etc.. If he acts like he wants you their you have real good chance. If he acts like he has to get away then you don't. Try this more than once. You will be able to tell.
Another thing you can watch for is if he tells you that he wants to some kind of relationship with you but he doesn't want other people to know yet. If he does this just run he is a player.
He may also need time to see for him self if he wants a relationship with you. Has he had past girl friends? May be this is new ground for him so go slow and try not to push to hard.
2007-03-27 08:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is confusing. I am not sure how old you are if you are working or at school? But in either way it is irritating to have someone appear to play like this. When you are speaking heaps it might be a good idea to bring this behavior up to him. It could be that he has not noticed that it upsets you. If he cares about you he will do his best to either eliminate it or at least lower the frequency of this behavior. If he continues I would speak to him again and then if he continues just ignore him. He may need to have a dose of his own medicine.
2007-03-27 07:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he told you that he likes you? Some guys wont say it cause they wana hear it from you!
By doeing this he is trying to grab your attention and get things out of you! I would suggest that ou be urself! I know it better said then done! But dont let him know that his behaviour is affecting you in any way! Once he comes around you can always hint at him by doing small things, that way he may get the message taht you like him......
2007-03-27 07:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by fatema2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants you hot and cold. "Keep her confused and she'll never know what hit her!" Forget it move on, why waste time on a guy who wants to leave you in limbo. Go for the guy whose sole purpose is to make you happy. Make someone work for attention not vice versa.
2007-03-27 07:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are not always going to be talkative every single day of their lives. Sometime they just want to listen without talking. Be glad he's not a motor mouth that never shuts up and drones on and on and on and on.
2007-03-27 07:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is interested only in getting his immediate needs met. He likes the attention but is not muture or humble enough to be able to respect his own intuition and 'higher' good, let alone your feelings. I reckon move on xxxxx
2007-03-27 07:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Color me wrong or color me right; it sounds like this guy is already planning on making his move, which appears to be on the way out; perhaps, you should do the same.
As the whole saying goes their are more fish in the sea, hook up your bait do yourself some fishing.
2007-03-27 08:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what hes trying to do ,confuse you.that way you cant see his motives and dont know whats coming next.its a form of mind control.that way yo dont knwo him and remain curious.he will later on warm up to you thne reverse again.this is what you do: be like ice,dnt let him read you either.tell him he bores you.make him feel like a child.remain unimpressed nor moved by anything he does.
find new sources of amusement even if yo have to pretend.dont be his playground.
2007-03-27 07:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by 9k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and if he is going to be the same way then it is time to move on!
2007-03-27 09:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋