I've been dating this guy for a year and 5 months now, it was great at the start, you know, the flowers, the unconditional love that you get from just that special someone at the very first couple of months that you are seing each other. Then all of a sudden, we started fighting... and this isnt an occasional thing this is like every time we see each other. We are too a like, we love everything the same and we both have the same circle of mates.
Lately when we fight we get physical but he hasnt hit me......in the face yet....but he has hit me other places and he has kicked me.....i know this may seem like a bad relationship but its not that easy to just up and leave him. His family are going to New Zealand next month and the only reason he is staying in Australia is because of me. I will die if he went but yet if i stay with him i will be happy yet sad..........
Should i stay with him and work through it or should i leave him and say goodbye to my first love and never see him again
2007-03-27 00:35:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, if you want my opinion, I will give it to you, but it's not gonna be pretty.
You have to break up with him. Your relationship might sound normal...you know, ups and downs etc., but there is a physical factor in it. Once that happens, there is no turning back now. Even if he doesn't hit you in the face, it doesn't matter...it's just a matter of time before he does; just think of what will happen in 3, 5 or 10 years if it got so bad after only a year! Please don't let him treat you that way. There are plenty of guys that are more than willing to treat you the way you deserve!
I know it's hard breaking up with someone, especially when you consider him your first true love, but you have to do it. Yes, you are going to feel awful for maybe months, but it will get better and you will get over him and you will find someone else. The pain is there just to remind you that happiness and love are not free and you better learn how to deal with it sooner than later cos you will probably experience it again.
But please break up with him. For your future's sake. Good luck and lemme know if you need anything - you can always email me...
2007-03-27 00:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say good-bye. It seems that you're trying to justify the hitting by saying not in the face yet. Any hit is a bad hit. If you're fighting all the time it's a sign that it will not work out. If you're so alike you may find, down the road in some years, that you make better friends than partners.
2007-03-27 00:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you really love him, he too loved you. He's a bit arrogant person and his actions only leave me in doubt about his present situation (his stance to you now). But, to go with him or not is an issue of trust and so. He loved you at first very good it seems, so he can love you. Stay with him if he can love you. I'll say go for it, and work yourself to bond this closer.It wont be difficult. Wish U a happy life.
2007-03-27 00:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chaste 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would die if you lost him? No, honey, but you may die if you stay with him and the violence escalates.
Sure, if you break things off now, you'll be sad. For a while. Then you'll get over it and move on. In any case, sad is better than in hospital with broken bones. Or in the morgue.
2007-03-27 00:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think all you are worth is physical abuse (let's be honest, that's what it is) then go with him and prepare to be a battered woman within the year.
There's nothing good but distant memories, this is NOT what love does, and this is not what love is either.
Open your eyes. Say goodbye, and go find that one who is ACTUALLY meant for you, who can treat you right.
Don;t settle for second best, hon, and that's what he is, cause that's how he treats you.
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2016-10-20 13:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by seelye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of this loser, the sooner you do the better off you will be.
2007-03-27 00:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋