ma boyfriend has suggested to have a long engagement we been together for 3 months now should i wait ma friend has been engaged for 2 weeks now after bein with her boyfriend for 3 months im not copying her wats ur comment on this do u think i should say yes or should i tell him to wait
2007-03-27 00:30:11 · 25 answers · asked by blue_lead_sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I think that engagement is no different than dating someone...it's just a difference between wearing a ring or not wearing one. If you think that getting engaged is more serious and secure and gives you a better chance of getting married, then you should think it through more deeply. But to me, it makes no difference and if you already agreed that it was going to be a long engagement as opposed to just dating, then I would definitely go for it! After all, rings are great! Plus you can always take them off...
2007-03-27 00:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every relationship is different but here's a few guidelines:
1] If you're under 25 - wait.
2] If you've dated very few people before this guy - wait.
3] If you're just coming off of a bad relationship with someone else - wait.
4] If you've never met his family, or his friends, and you don't feel you know much about him - wait.
5] If you are still in school - wait.
Marriage is very serious. You are promissing the rest of your lives to each other. If it doesn't work out divorce is emotionally and financially devastating. You need to be sure. If you have enough life experience to really know what you want in a partner then 3 months is enough time. However, if you don't have enough life experience to know what you'll want/need in a life partner for the next 50 to 60 YEARS then wait and see. Good luck
2007-03-27 07:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! the first year or so is always amazing and you think you want to be with them for life - you cant possibly know if you want to stay with someone if you're only going by the 3 month honeymoon period - you need to be together for at least a couple of years, through ups and downs before you make this sort of decision
"long engagements" are tacky - people very rarely do it with the actual intention of getting married (which is obviously the point of getting engaged)- it's just showing off to your mates
show a bit of class and maturity and just carry on as you are - dont wear an engagement ring as a status symbol if you're not going to go through with it
2007-03-27 07:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to comment as we dont know theintensity of your relationship - but Im a firm believer of the fact you can never truely know someone properly until you're with them at least a year - and even at that you'll still learn something new about them every day!
If you do love each other - whats the rush!?? Getting engaged now or a year down the road will still result in the same outcome! Id wait - enjoy your relationship for what it is and think about long term plans a bit more into the future
xx
2007-03-27 07:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the point in having a long engagement? If you guys are together then that is enough. Wait until you really know each other. It's less hassle than cancelling an engagement if you guys don't make it. Also don't be rushed into anything. If this is for getting you into bed, making a family or keeping up with your friend...run a mile!!
2007-03-27 08:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by buzybee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend 4 yrs in octoder and we haven't got engaged. if you love him that much, being together should be enough. Engagment is more than a ring, it's a promise to marry and a life time commitment. Think long and hard about this one, whats the rush.
2007-03-27 07:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO AND NO.
I did it and boy did I regret it. I married after
six months of knowing him and got to dislike
him before I walked down the aisle.
I was just 18 and because it was a big white
wedding and I was young it was easier to go
through with it rather than tell everyone the marriage
was off.
It lasted 2 years.
You sound very young. If you were mature enough
you would not be thinking about other peoples thoughts.
You would just get engaged.
2007-03-27 07:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU???? what is the rush??
You are still going through the (I'm in love, wow I'm soooo happy)
Love is great but it is always wonderful in the beginning, give it time, whats the rush!!!
Time shows every bodies flaws, and then you get to see the real person.
Don't commit to something you don't really know about.
PS if you wait he can save for a reallllly nice engagement ring
2007-03-27 07:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement is a commitment to a long-term relationship. You don't mention whether or not you and your boyfriend love each other. If you have to ask this question from strangers you must not be sure of this relationship yourelf and therefore my advice is: no. When you are certain, you will have no need to ask anyone else for thier opinions.
2007-03-27 09:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by troy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait say another 3 months or so and see how your relationship is then, if you both still feel the same then go for it and get engaged.
2007-03-27 07:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋