Hi I recently found a girl on friends reunited from my passed when I was in college “10 years ago” back then I really fancied her “there not a day that go by I don’t think about her I always think what if?, when we was in college there was a attraction there but some boy beat me to it and I was very shy back then and basically that was it I use to watch her with him and wish it was me lol also I did look scruffy I was doing construction and she was doing computers, so I was not dressed the best and my cloths was always dirty and my hair was never done “ok I looked a mess” also I had a very annoying voice thank god my voice got deeper lol .
Anyway, Now I have found out she’s got 2 children and she’s going through a divorce, but I looked at her photo and still fancy her , I always wished I asked her out, it is true you always thing about the ones that got away.
Should I mail that girl or not I’m not sure if she remembers me it have been 10 years , I use to class her as friends but maybe she never.
Thanks
2007-03-27 00:25:41 · 17 answers · asked by miky m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it!!!
Wondering about it isn't going to do anything.
She will be in emotional turmoil - easy win :P
2007-03-27 00:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Barry Von Leotard III 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bud. 10 years is an extremely long time. The last thing you want to do now is jump in a situation where she is vulnerable -as this would prove false love and hope. Give her space, the last thing she needs is a guy who is after her, she really needs to be comforted. Play the role of the friend, but please be genuine as being hurt by another guy is just too much. Women in general look for emotional fulfillment and generally want it from a guy - but we constantly fail miserebly at this that is why they hang and cry around their girlfirends because girls love from the heart. You will up your game when it comes from the heart. A woman of this calibre would be searching for stability, but would not easily trust the next guy that comes along. This means that you would have to prove your worth and would be willing to do so? Then bare in mind how much she has changed, how much you have changed, she may never be the sweet girl you saw in college. Be wise, give her space and then start your opening line -give her a few months. the only way you will win her over is if you are truelly geuine, don't abuse her trust or her heart try and be her knight in shinning armour, not the guy in college with the school boy crush trying to resolve a adolescent question mark.
2007-03-27 07:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by His Majesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm getting in contact with her cuz you can tlk as mates anyway. If you still fancy her and feel you want to take the plunge just be wary of her kids, her past and make sure shes not on the rebound. Funny things can happen in life, take a risk n live a lil. Good luck x
2007-03-27 07:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by wildteddybear07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in mailing her if you are single but try and build a friendship first you have to remember that if she is going through a divorce then she is proberly feeling vunerable and you wouldnt want to end up as a rebound. you have lots to catch up on as a lot has happened in both your lives over ten years. go for friendship and if anything develops latter on its a bonus. She may feel nervous introducing a new man into her childrens lives. Good luck
2007-03-27 07:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by tatty ted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatly contact her or you will always wonder 'what if'. I think she would be flattered that you still think of her after all these years I know I would be. Make sure you tell her how you liked her back in the day just dont sound like a stalker and be nice to her if she says no thanks but then you will know for sure. We must take chances to get what we want out of life. Good luck!
2007-03-27 07:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by dinkylynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out is to go for it. Friends Reunited has those ice-breaker things where you don't need to write a message.
Go For It!!
2007-03-27 08:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely you should contact her! She is at a hard time in her life and sometimes someone familiar can really help. Besides, you have changed a lot and she might find you incredibly attractive now! Go for it and good luck!
2007-03-27 07:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...sounds like something out of 'There's something bout Mary'... how cute..
Well...here's the thing.......GO FOR IT.
You already regret having missed 10 yr why regret any longer.
Look...chances are 'It may happen', chances are 'It may not'. What are you afraid of...?
2007-03-27 07:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by AngelDee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should give it time because like you said she is going through a divorce and are you really ready to deal with her two kids
2007-03-27 07:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by shaenaz m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes give her a call you may be just what she wants at the moment
but you may end up as a rebound thing so tread carefully
2007-03-27 07:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋