My boyfriend has been in Afghinstan now for 5 months. We have been together for 3 years. I'm still at Uni in Newcastle on my own. We chat about 3 times a week on Yahoo, whenever he can. About three weeks ago an ex boyfriend got in touch out of the blue on Yahoo. We have been chatting every day since, something i don't get the chnace to do with my boyfriend. My ex understands the position, but still wants to come up and see me. I did have a small fling with him when I first met my boyfriend and have honestly missed him ever since. Now I'm not sure if I should say yes"Come and see me" or should I stay away. he has a stable job and would be there for me when needed. I know I'm feeling lonely, but also getting near the stage of feeling like a single women again. I'm not to sure if I want to see him again or if I want him here for another reason. And if he does come here and nothing happens, do I tell my boyfriend?
2007-03-27 00:25:33 · 10 answers · asked by sally r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah,
transperancy is always the best answer
If you can not become clear to your boyfriend than you are only clouding your judgement
(and piss on those thumbs down. eh blokes!
I deserve better)
2007-03-27 00:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't answer anything except the telling the boyfriend part. I am in Iraq and although not in the military I have all kinds of dealings with these guys. My best suggestion is to not tell him until he is back. These guys don't have much in the way of anything, a thought of a girl back home is what literally keeps these guys going. I have been part of the clean up of 3 suicides over being "dumped while deployed". They honestly take it hard. Wait until he is on leave, start an argument and let him dump you or just be upfront with him then. It is really the worst thing to deal with here.
2007-03-27 00:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by dude0795 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to oversimplify the situation but from what I have read you have qualms about infidelity infecting the situation. Coincidentally, I find it is the tendency of women to be largely driven by emotion, if you still love your boy friend who happens to be deployed in Afghanistan you should by your better judgment stay away from this situation and avoid meeting this other man.
2007-03-27 00:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by dwa9@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely what a pretty female buddy you're. intercourse isn't the only element in a dating. How approximately speaking on your boyfriend and being concerned approximately why he's pushing you away, and shruging off being on the threshold of you? that could start up freaking me out extra advantageous than intercourse being non existent. you will desire to consult him to make certain whats incorrect. He would desire to be truly under pressure or there would desire to be some thing truly praying on his recommendations. do not cheat on him. you will sense sorry approximately it and you will create certainly one of those complicated venture with your boyfriend, ensuing in you dropping each and every thing. refer to him, locate out whats incorrect.
2016-11-23 18:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by hamernik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in Afghanistan and have been 100% loyal had girl cheat on me while i was here and its hard to deal with when it happens so if you are going down that road leave him first. but you want my opinion don’t set your self up to fail some one you care about and may regret later in life. like my x does.
2007-03-27 00:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by MIKE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you end it with your current boyfriend and then start something with your ex, you're an honest woman who is following her heart.
If you screw around behind your current boyfriend's back with your ex, you're a s1ut.
Only you can decide what you want to be.
2007-03-27 00:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already cheated on him? Rather than cheat on him again, you should leave him. Drop hints that you are leaving him on the end of his tour that way he can focus on what's most important to him right now and that is making it back alive.
Besides you aren't married, he can find another girlfriend im sure, they're are plenty of women who find military guys attractive.
2007-03-27 00:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by The SOurcE 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have mates based in Afghanistan in Kandahar & Bagram with the NZ Army and Australian Army and they are all cheating with female US Soldiers or ISAF girls or even all the dirty sluts from KBR so dont feel bad. What goes on tour stays on tour. believe me military or civilian thay are all ****ing someone. DO IT and dont feel bad for a minute
2007-03-27 00:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by rim_master2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a Cun*!
2007-03-27 00:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't have him *** se you!! but play online is ok
2007-03-27 00:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋