I'm PREGNANT!?

Question

i just found out yesterday that i am pregnant! the problem is, i have only been seeing this guy for 3 weeks! he knows about it, and is understandably shell shocked like me.but now i don't know what to do, im 23 with a 3 year old son already. i know i can handle children fine, its whether he can. he is 43. Help!

i havent played anyone thankyou, i never ask anything off of anyone, and that certainly doesnt change when i have a child. For you narrow minded people out there you need to know there's more to life then playing people.

he is the only one i have slept with in 3 months

Answer 1

43?
then you can live off his pension!

Answer 2

It's a little late to worry about whether or not he can handle children. Both of you should have been concerned with that outcome 3 weeks ago. Both of you need to talk about what to do now as another person's life is in the balance. Do you have the child, and what will be your role in the child's life. Both of you need to be honest and adult and upfront or else you will only be creating more problems. You seem ready to have the child, but seem to have doubts about his intentions.
You are about to have 2 children from 2 different fathers. Assuming things work out with this guy, then you will have found a decent person, but should he decide to walk out on you as you suspect, then you might want to practice safe sex in the future.
It will help you to find a partner in the possible future, and will lessen the burden of you raising more children by yourself. It's not impossible right now, but why make things worse?! No one expects you not to have sex anymore, just to be careful from now on. Don't be a baby factory. You probably don't want guys to think of you that way, so don't act like one, otherwise, guys won't take you seriously, 'cept for when they need a little something.

Answer 3

If you know you can handle children and have been a single parent with your 3 year old then you can handle having another child and at 43 I should hope he would be able to be mature enough to support you and try and work things out with you. Though only you know if you want to have another child.
I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 4

Well If I were you I would have the baby and time will tell if he can handle it. You both knew that there was a chance of your getting pregnant and big deal about the age difference that isn't an issue especially when a child will be involved. Just take it day by day and the shock will wear off for both of you. If you find that he can't handle it, well he still has to support you and your new baby financially! You'll be fine and I hope that he is too!! Good Luck:)

Answer 5

Please, please, please do not have an abortion. If the father can "handle it" and you want to live together, then there's no problem. If he cannot, then think about whether you can cope with two children. If not, then think about all the poor couples out there who cannot have children and consider adoption. Your baby would be loved and cherished if you can just get through the 9 months of pregnancy. I know it's a big ask, but there are people out there who will help you get through it. An abortion may be something that you regret for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

He's 43 and he hasn't yet figured out how babies are made?

*sigh*

Well, first thing is to get yourself checked for STDs and HIV/AIDS since you were sleeping with a man you've only known for 3 weeks! Unless you were both tested previously and have been celibate for the past 2 years before hooking up, you've exposed yourself and your child to the possibility of STDs and HIV/AIDS. Way to go!

*sighs again*

Then decide what you want to do about bringing another child from another father into this world. You obviously didn't learn from your irresponsible behavior the first time around, so why should this time be any different.

Best of luck to your children.

Answer 7

WoW and I thought I had it bad when I only was dating my girlfriend for 4 monts and she came up saying I think I'm pregnant. only 3 weeks huh, well don't rush into anything like marrage or something like that you can have the baby and just be dating him but if yall ever do brake up he'll just have to pay child support, honestly you might of found the perfect guy that is welling to take care of his responsibilities but only knowing him for 3 weeks its going to take a while before you find out.

Answer 8

No birth control so it isn't a big surprise at all. Get "dad" and his wallet ready for those child support payments. At 43 I would think he would have had an little snip job done. Also at 43 he should be a big boy about life by now.

Answer 9

you have only known this guy 3 wks, well i suppose it better than a one night stand. you put each other at risk by not using condoms. either one of you dont know much about each others past therefore put you both on the front line of STD and obviously pregnany, the old saying take the responsibilty for your actions applies to the both of you.as for us narrow minded people you was the one who put yourself in the firing line and asked the question not us. Good luck.

Answer 10

I think you need to have a serious discussion with him about this one hun - whether or not you two will last the pace as a couple - you do need to know if he is willing to support any decision you make - i think you need to sit him down and discuss all probabilities or possibilities regarding the two of you and what will happen in the future - the baby is the most important part of this equation and you need to be assured that you have his support - even if you dont have him!
xx

Answer 11

I think he's old enough now to be having kids, he may not get another chance and it will be nice for your son to have a lil brother or sister. If he is decent enough he will stand by you, see what he has to say about it but don't do anything drastic unless you are completely sure. Don't think too much about him tho, the final choice is up to you. good luck x