Who do I include in my wedding invitation?

Question

Here are some facts:
-my parents are divorced
-my dad is remarried, my mum is not
-dad will be paying for most of the wedding, boyfriend's parents will/might chip in, and we (bf and I) will be paying for some
-we're getting married in my home country

I don't know who should be mentioned. Help. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry Didn't make it clear.
I mean who do I include on the actual invitation. (EG) "Mr. My Dad and Ms/Mrs. My Mum wish to invite you to the wedding of blah blah."
I'm asking who gets to be ON the invitation to say we are getting married.

Answer 1

Mr. (your dad) and (dad's wife) & Mrs. (your mom) [or vice versa if you're closer to mom] cordially invite you to wedding of their daughter, (you) to (your fiance), son of Mr. & Mrs. (fiance's parents).

Something like that.

Answer 2

First, it doesn't matter who is paying. Second, if the wedding is in your home country, it makes the most sense to call your parents the hosts. Also, on invitations, the woman goes first (unless it's a married couple). Your mother's name would appear as Mrs. First Maiden Married names. So, if your mom's name is Mary, her maiden name is Smith, and her married name is Jones, it would appear as Mrs. Mary Smith Jones.

Mrs. Mary Smith Jones
and
Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Jones
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Catherine Jones
to
Michael Edwards
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Jacob Edwards
Saturday, the fifth of June
two thousand and seven
at two o'clock in the afternoon
St. Paul's Catholic Church
Toronto, Canada

You can visit www.verseit.com for more creative ways to word the invitation, but the basics stay the same.

Answer 3

According to this website, the main "hosts" are you dad and his new partner, so the invite comes from them:

Mr. and Mrs. William Jones
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of Mr. Jones' daughter
Jane Elizabeth Jones
and
Mr. Stephen James Richardson
on Saturday, the ninth of June
two thousand and four
at two o'clock
First Church of Christ
219 North Granby Road
Granby, Connecticut


If you want to keep your mum happy, you can still include as a co-invitee, and I think the correct form would be:

Mr. and Mrs. William Jones
and (two choices here)
Ms. Julia Franklin Jones (maiden and married surnames)
or Ms. Julia Franklin (maiden name)
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
Jane Elizabeth Jones
and
Mr. Stephen James Richardson
on Saturday, the ninth of June
two thousand and four
at two o'clock
First Church of Christ
219 North Granby Road
Granby, Connecticut

Answer 4

Hi beckbocky,

Take a look at the attached article entitled 'Wording the Invites' in particular page three which outlines all the various ways to word things if parents are divorced, widowed etc.

Hope this helps and best of luck with the big day!

Answer 5

Why not just have you and your boyfriend?
E.g: Mr ........ ......... and Miss / Ms ....... ........ request the pleasure of the company of .........
(hope this makes sense)
My boyfriend and i are getting married soon and we'll probably have our invitations something like this. My mums dead, my dad and my boyfriends parents will probably both chip in. its very difficult because you dont want to offend anyone, but at the end of the day its your wedding and your guests.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Your Mom (maiden name if she took that name again)
your dad and his present wife
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

Joan Marie

to

John J. Johnson Jr.

Son of

Mr. and Mrs. John J.. Johnson Sr.

on Saturday the twenty first of June

Two Thousand and Seven

at St. Pius Church
Address

at 4:00 PM in the afternoon

Answer 7

My mother is paying for my wedding but I Iisted both of them on the wedding invitations but my mother's name is first. My father is giving me away and is going to split the cost when the wedding is over (they are divorced so they decided it was easier to have Mom pay for everything up front and then my dad to refund her half of the total cost) so my invitations list Mom then Dad. The simple solution would be to just list yourselves as the host/hostess "Come share our celebration with us as we, Jane Doe and John Stag, marry on x/x/xxxx"

Answer 8

We had a similar conundreun as we are getting married this year. In the end we just put our first names and put

Henrietta and James
request the pleasure of your company
to celebrate their marraige
at........
and we told all parents etc that this was how we wanted to do it because its a the modern thing to do now. Everybody seemed to accept that and it saved a lot of worring about peoples feelings. good luck for your big day x

Answer 9

I agree you should include your mom and your dad and his wife. And I apologize for asking a (general) question in response to your question...but would you include your step parent if you hate them? Couldn't you just just do Mr. Michael Smith and Mrs. Denise Jones would like to announce... "or whatever? Sorry, just wondering.

Also a comment for FREERANGE... I agree that your parents shouldn't need a formal invitation to your wedding (like they're not automatically invited! lol) but I think it'd be nice for them to have. I know my mom would save it for sentimental reasons or whatever. I think you should still give them one anyways. (Only my opinion though)

Answer 10

Your Mom, Dad and his wife, siblings, close friends, uncles and aunts,all but little children unless you don't care about that. Maybe all of the family can not attend but they should be invited. All that you were close to growing up....your not a movie star you don't pay for transportation and hotels , but can help finding accomodations.....where they may stay, numbers to call things like that....plus the groom makes his list of people...