hi i have a girlfriend hu i am goin out wit 4 8 month now!! but at a recent work party I danced with a girl i work with and it felt right that me and her should be together i have never felt that way before after the party i went home and thought bout it...then she rang and asked did i feel the way she felt....I dont no what to do it really awkward plz help!!!!
2007-03-27 00:18:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people refer to courtship as a game, but in reality it is a serious discerning process. You are actually searching for the right person to be your life partner. So when you find someone better than your last choice you must be true to yourself. It may appear that you are breaking a pact you had with your 1st girl, but choosing the best person in her life is also what she should be doing - even if it means someone else other that you. You are both not married and as such nothing is final. That is the brutal truth. Your conscience should not be troubled.
The good news is that you don't really have to choose yet. You should explore what your new relationship may offer without any guilt before declining your earlier relationship. All singles who are in a relationship must acknowledge that their relationship is not craved in stone and that the fact that your relationship is not now a married one would suggest that you both need to be sure. It is your right to exercise good judgement when picking your partner. This does not mean that you can be reckless to the one you are leaving behind. Should the time come when you have to inform one party that you cannot offer a 'romantic' relationship, you must gracefuly and tactfully break the news but not her heart. This is not easy but remember that you are not saying goodbye but offering to redefine the relationship to that of a special friend. You must acknowledge that love which she has for you even if you cannot any longer return the same kind of love.
As for now it is too early to tell if your new found love is best for you. So just move slowly and see if this is the new dawn of your destiny. Until then all is fair in love and courtship. Don't feel bad for now. Enjoy your single life but take special care not to hurt the one you first loved. Remember today she still holds you dear to her heart.
2007-03-27 00:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so have you started to lose feelings for your current girlfriend? if that's the case i guess you should end it instead of hurting her by dragging it out.. but have you thought it over carefully? do you really want to throw away eight months with your girlfriend for a girl you met at a party? do you really feel this strongly for the new girl ? it might just be a phase, i'd hate to see you do something you'll regret.. talk it over with your girlfriend about how you're feeling and maybe some time out, will help you decide..
good luck
2007-03-27 00:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i see in my boyfriend is the most wonderful person ever and i would never look at any other guys the way i look at him. love i guess.
it seems u don't feel the same way about ur girlfriend. so y not go with what your hearts telling u to. i sense that would be to go out with this other girl instead? but don't rush into it as your girlfriend will get even more hurt if she finds u dumped her for someone else.
good luck
2007-03-27 00:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your girlfriend? If you do stay away from the other girl. We all become atracted to others at one point or another it doesn't mean it should turn into something more. Sometimes we get these feelings for another person because our current relationship has become dull or too comfortable. Before you change partners look seriously at your current relationship.
2007-03-27 00:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by hmsmomof6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell ur girl you wanna take a break its only fair 2 her and if she ain't the only girl u think about after 48 mon then she doing something wrong and while y'all on a break see if it works with the girl you danced with cause you say you never felt like this b4 so follow you heart and take a chance this 1 time a girl friend is 4 now true love is 4 ever.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 00:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by kk so fly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does not sound like a healthful dating and additionally you deserve extra ideal. take a seat and talk along with her approximately it head to head. tell her which you're feeling she is treating anybody else extra ideal than she treats you and that she flirts with others yet your dating has lost that playful flirting and additionally you permit out it. tell her issues would desire to alter and additionally you prefer to paintings mutually to place the relaxing lower back in the dating and that the two one among you're able to do a extra ideal job of treating eachother. If she maintains to think of your being unreasonable then she does not get it and could no longer exchange.
2016-12-08 12:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is called temptation and it looks like it knocked on ur door!
you have to think of ur girlfriend right now. do you love her?? if u feel that the relationship with ur gf is going no where or this new temptation is too strong u might want to break up with her first before attempting it with the new girl.
2007-03-27 00:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget that party girl. you was with your girlfriend 48 month, and with that party girl just one day...
2007-03-27 00:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to pursue her then end the relationship with your current gf...that's only fair...good luck
2007-03-27 00:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not a good idea
2007-03-27 00:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by jimjim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋