Her mum and I are fairly friendly as we drop them off, take them out etc. Now the other girl says she is a Goth all the time, my daughter is girly and fed up of it. She told me the girl even says she is gay at 9, my daughter just wants to play with another girl more like herself.
The last time the friend slept at our house, I did notice she was isolating herself from the others, she brought her own personal cd player and listened to it when I had got them food, dvds and cds to listen to on the bedroom players.
I cant blame my daughter for changing her choice of friends, its her right and I can see why.
But the mum texted this am and I will see her at school. What do I say?
2007-03-27 00:07:38 · 19 answers · asked by babyshambles 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't offer any explanation. There's no way you can phrase it without either causing offence, or getting involved in trying to 'fix' it , which is a disaster of a situation to be in.
If I were you, I'd brush it off by saying something like: Oh you know what kids are like at that age, it was bound to happen sooner or later, I'm sure they'll make up in another while.
You're right - it is your daughter's right to choose her friends, and neither you nor she should feel pressured into keeping up a contact she's not interested in.
Chances are, the other girl will forget all about being a goth in another couple or weeks, and they'll be back to being best friends again.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 00:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by RM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could just tell the other mum your not sure but maybe it's just a case of children changing and as they change they find other things to do and normally new friends come along with that. You may also add that your sure with time the girls will be friends again, even if you do not believe this will happen, it may help soften the blow for the other parent.
Hope this helps
Margaret
2007-03-27 00:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by citta_uk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you explain it just like you have on here?
Your priority is your daughter. As you said - its your
daughters choice - and if she feels that her friend
has changed there's nothing you can do about it.
You could still talk to your daughter and ask her what
her friend thinks. But you know - this is what kids do.
I wouldn't worry about the remarks of being goth and gay.
That is kids talk!!
2007-03-27 00:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go down the "They seem to have fallen out - I expect it will all blow over" route. At this age, children tend to fall in and out of friendships quite regularly. It is certainly a mistake to be seen to be "taking sides" in any way, because you will never be told the whole story of what's happened. Try to treat it as one of those things that happens. Based on my experience as a parent, they will probably be good friends again next week!
2007-03-27 00:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Paul G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest and say that your daughter has started to play with another girl at school who has similar interests. all kids go through phases. maybes mention that you noticed her daughter was abit stand off ish when she stayed over at yours. just generally chat saying "does your daughter still like doing ....?" if you are fairly good friends, she will realise that nor you or your daughter are doing anything wrong by pointing out that the two girls have different interests and each to their own. you never know they might be best mates again next week that is why i have never fallen out with foke over either their kids or mine!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 00:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no one can force them to be friends.
just explain to her exactly why your daughter has decided she doesnt want to be mates any more
if she is a good friend of yours then she wont let them spoil yours and her friendship. I ve been through this a couple of years back and me and this girl complety changed and we were like 2different people and we just clashed. but i still dont get on with her but mine and her mum are still best of friends. they got together chatted and decided it was up 2 us 2 be friends or not but it never affected them.
2007-03-27 02:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by kt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you think they're growing up different speeds, they're growing apart as they have very different interests, reassure her it's normal and the kids need to sort it out on their own without adults involving themselves. You've got a smart kid there for being strong enough to make that change.
2007-03-27 00:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her exactly that...
Life goes on and people change, even at this young age.
Yes, you will see the mum at school but it doesn't mean that you can't still be friends.
Respect that your girls don't seem to get along so well and leave it at that. Kids are just as good at judging people as what we are sometimes!
2007-03-27 00:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by fitMel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
jus tell her girls are girls, my little sister is doing this all the time with her best friend, one day she hates her, next day shes her best friend again!
but if this girl says shes gay and shes creeping your daughter out you cant blame her for wanting a new friend, jus explain to the mother that its up to the daughters and that if they dont want to be friends anymore then so be it!
2007-03-27 00:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋