Going on a first serious date since my split a year ago...Im kinda nervous...any tips...?
2007-03-27 00:03:17 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, I totally understand your dilemma. Out of the dating game for a while and things change. But don't worry too much...wear something nice; something sexy but not something screaming "Look at me I'm a whore!" Like a nice skirt over the knees and a simple top, not too exposing. Your goal is to appear elegant, ladylike and feminine. So, as far as the conversation goes...just be yourself, if he doesn't like it, better find out now not later, right? Just listen to him, answer his questions, ask about his interests, places he'd like to visit, talk about things that interest you etc.
Just relax and enjoy the time. He's probably just as nervous as you are!
2007-03-27 00:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyya. God been there and it is scary for sure. Well what I did to get ready for a date after a LONG time was first..I got on the phone with my girlfriends to just talk..that helped especially with the whole what to wear thing. Turns out guys LOVE jeans and a sexy T rather than getting all dolled up. Besides it's a first date and you don't wanna look too prissy. This is also something I would so..lol. I would crank my stereo and put on an awesome cd.."hella good" by no doubt was my favourite song(that was usually on repeat) and I would dance around my room too get rid of jitters. Usually after that crazy dance routine I would get on the phone again with a friend and then I'd dance my butt off again!! Hope that helps!! Good luck and have a blast!!!
2007-03-27 00:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only give you tips from a guys perspective, but here goes. Going on a serious date is like a job interview, you're scared s*&tless that you're gonna screw up. Trust me, its not as labor intensive as that.
Look yourself in a mirror and juice yourself up. Meaning, say some positive things about yourself, get amped up and ready to go before your date. Remember that you're in control the whole time, and nothing is gonna change that. You don't have to fall into some mold and pretend to be someone just to impress the other person. This is your chance to show off YOU and what YOU are made of. Let your true personality shine.
Guys love girls who have a sense of justice and self proclamtion. Don't let your guard down, but don't be a "G.I. Jane" type either. Just sit back and go with the flow.
2007-03-27 00:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't measure this guy up against your previous experience. the fact that you were disspointed sets you up in to thinking that you will be disspointed again. Ensure that you have dealt with all your feelings and emotional hang ups. No what you're looking for and understand who you are as a person. Enjoy the time as if though it were your first time, because sometimes experiences can kinda spoil the fun of mystery. And remember to be a mystery as well. Be calm, be in control of yourself, your thoughts and your emotions but don't be scared to let go.
2007-03-27 00:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just calm down ... and be yourself....Wear clothes that make you feel good. New clothes are always helpful ....but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well. Stay positive, don't complain on a first date, pay attention to your date and thank the other person for the date. :)
2007-03-27 00:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Raluk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!! Stop stressing and enjoy it!!! I know thats easier said than done - but I find we often work ourselves into such a frenzy over first dates that we end up to tired or stressed to actually enjoy them!!!
Im sure you'll have a great time - just remind yourself that you'er more than ready to get back on the dating scene after a year - that this guy obviously likes you to have asked you on a date and ENJOY YOURSELF!!!
xx
2007-03-27 00:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to be nervous. See who can be good friends with you as well as love you truly. Figuring it out will be difficult, people outside may not be the same inside. Good luck on your quest.
2007-03-27 00:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chaste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nervous if ok in front of guys, they kind of like it almost at first, but flirt with this guy, not like by laughing constantly, maybe laugh at his jokes, but don't be a loopy, but don't be al gloomy, just have fun, that's how the love realy builds up!
2007-03-27 00:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and enjoy yourself, dont make the date into a big deal or you will get super nervous.
when i split from my fiance and met a new man i was so nervous i didnt eat for days before hand.
that was just silly, i shouldnt have got myself so worked up, just be chilled and think to yourself ah its nothing just a date.
2007-03-27 00:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, have fun, be yourself and most important..........have fun. You will be fine. You are making the best move by moving on. Enjoy yourself. Don't drink too much BUT have fun. Good luck.
2007-03-27 00:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋