i am getting married this year. i already live with my partner and i have 3 kids. i find it really hard to warm to 1 of my partners children we don't see very much of the other 1, but the one that does come to visit every weekend is so sneaky. can anyone help
2007-03-27 00:01:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
and my hubby to be can't see anything wrong with what his son does and won't deal with it. he has stolen from my kids rooms his dad has asked him and he said he never so his dad believes him. my kids would say it doesn't matter but i'm not happy
2007-03-27 02:34:31 · update #1
He could be acting this way out of jealousy cause you and his dad are getting married this year.
Try getting him involved it the wedding as much as you can and put him in charge of stuff,i know you have your own kids but until you win him round he will get worse.
Involve him in everyday life,talk about things you know he likes etc....it only takes little things to win him round. And if he knows you aren't treating him the same as the other kids he will play up more. Good luck....u can do it.
2007-03-28 10:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its one of the hardest things 2 do hun step children like 2 play games and i had this with my husbands son it was my husbands x wife feeding the child to make him nawty towards me , i tried all ways even buying him things 2 like me and being really nice to him it didn't work just grin and bear it for the short time u see the child don't let it get to you and ask ur hubby to deal with him if he gets 2 nawty don't let it come between u and hubby i do sympathise if he refuss 2 behave just treat him like a teacher would trat him tell him when he does wrong don't shout at him and explain to his father that your ok with step children but not there to be walked over good luck hun xx
2007-03-27 00:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my boyfriend and my 2 kids, the best advice i can give you is to talk everything through with your partner. My partner doesn´t usually tell me what he thinks to do with my kids and sometimes snapps at them which really annoys me as i´m their mum and i should do the telling off. As for getting on with the kid...take him/her out a few times on your own and get to know what´s going on in his/her mind
2007-03-27 00:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with your husbands children can be a problem.
Sooner or later your husband will see what his son is doing.
Believe it or not the children will try to manipulate their
father and make you out to be the bad guy.
Let your husband know whats going on.
Maybe it is a good thing you do not see him much.
2007-03-27 03:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your job to deal with and you shouldn't.
You and your husband should sit down and talk about the rules of your home and what you both want and expect.
Then let him take care of making sure this happens....you should stay out of it.
2007-03-27 02:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋