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she's married now, and it's 15 years later. The last time she dated him was in high school, she was 14 (she's 29 now). We're both single and he wants to take me out for drinks.

Is this appropriate? I mean, we're friends but I don't know what his intentions are to take me out for drinks.

2007-03-26 23:58:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

24 answers

You know, with some girls, it's never ok to date their ex. It's kind of an unspoken rule. You may not have any feelings left for the guy, but that doesn't mean you want your friend (let alone your sister) to date them. Your sister may be married, and she may have moved on and be over him. But that doesn't mean he's "up for grabs" either.

If you want to avoid "bad blood" with your sister, I suggest you ask HER opinion on the matter. If you REALLY like the guy, then tell your sister that and hope she's ok with it.

2007-03-27 00:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Booger 3 · 0 0

I would not go out with anyone my sister has gone out with before. No madder how many years it has been. I just don't think that is right.

Doesn't mean you can't be friends with him. But no more than a FRIEND.

2007-03-27 00:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by mary 1 · 0 0

It's inappropriate. You do not date sisters. Time is not an issue. You don't date best friends either. It happens, but it causes issues. While there are people who have no issues about such matters, more people do have issues than not. Can you imagine the conversation you and your sister could have about him?! You say, "I hate it when he does such and such" and she replies, "yeah, he did that with me too!"!? There's an uncomfortable moment waiting to happen. If you are really comfortable with yourself and who you are, then go ahead, but if you have even the slightest issues about such things, then it would be best advised to pass on this one.
Dating two people from the same family is a faux pas.

2007-03-27 00:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0 0

Well a lot of time has past--how old is he?? If it doesn't feel right to you--don't go. How old are you?? If he is too old--it is probably a mid life crisis thing--tell him you are too busy--thanks anyway. His intentions are a few drinks and sex with a young girl--then bragging to his friends who will stare at you the next time they see you. Oh well, what can you do??

2007-03-27 00:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0 0

If you are friends with this guy then going out for a drink is no big deal.And as you said you do not know what his intentions are.It may be just two friends having a drink.If you find out it looks like it could be more than just drinks,you may want to talk to your sister and see how she feels about this.It has been a while since they dated but she for what ever reason might be uncomfortable with it.Once you talk to her you'll know what to do.

2007-03-27 00:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

wow, what a question.....

I would say not, but since there has been that many years, then I don't see why not. I would tell your sister about it and see how she feels, but otherwise go for it. I always envied my sis for her dates that she seemed to pick up and then flick off like they are no big thing.

Go for it, but my view is as a younger sister......

2007-03-27 00:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 1 0

Gross! he's been there with your sister! There are so many millions of men, whatever her feelings, find someone who's new!!

2007-03-27 00:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by eat my try 2 · 0 0

I think he wants the ego trip of possibly banging two sisters. Sorry I'm not implying that youir sister did have sex as a fact. I'm just naturally cynical.

2007-03-27 00:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

It was 15 years ago, what could be the problem? She's married. Why should she have a problem?

2007-03-27 00:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Notherenow 3 · 1 1

I guess so, but I'd bring a knife or something just in case its rape or he's trying to get you drunk, so remember, it's ok, your sister shouldn't mind if she's married, and if this guy tries to use you to get your sister back, KICK HIS ******' ***!

2007-03-27 00:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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