My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months, and I love him, but I'm worried. He talks about his ex a lot. They are currently not speaking to each other, but im worried that if they do begin talking again that he will leave me for her. He has already said that he still loves her and always will...Should I be worried?
2007-03-26 23:43:49 · 19 answers · asked by elizabeth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says he loves me, and everytime i bring it up he accuses me of trying to get him to forget about his ex...
2007-03-26 23:44:49 · update #1
If you can accept the fact that you are not the person that he loves most than there is no problem. But i think(and hope) this is not the case. So what you should do is to talk to him and tell him that you want and deserve an honest answer to this question:" If he could have the chance to date his ex again,then would he dump you for her?" His answer will clarify(if it can be more clear than now) everything.
However, if I were you, I would not do any of the things that I said and I would dump him immediately. Why get yourself tired with the idea that you are not the most important one for him, although you can find someone who will care about you much more than he does,and does not have an ex to love?
2007-03-26 23:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound pessimistic about this, but the fact that he keeps on talking about his ex-gf says that he doesn't love you... He may say that he does, but can you feel it? You have the right to be worried, coz it looks like once she give him another chance he's gonna leave you for her... if not, why is he accusing you of trying to get her out of his system, which is just right coz you're with him now and not w/ her. If he's not ready or willing to start forgetting about her and stop mentioning about her then he's not ready to give his heart yet. That's why it's hard to believe that he loves you. Talk to him and tell him that if he really loves you and if he wants your relationship to go on, he should stop talking about his ex coz it doesn't make sense...It's time for him to move on... It doesnt feel good being in a relationship like this, you will only lose your self confidence, am I right? You deserve so much better... You're a lovely lady... perhaps too good coz you are trying to put up with this, but don't waste your time coz this is not gonna work... how dare him accuse you of trying to get her out of his mind... If you can. just give him up or he'll break your heart in the end. If he really cares about you and if he really loves you, he wont let you go...
2007-03-27 07:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so yes. sorry for that answer but im a firm believer in that saying of If I Cant Be Your Everything, Then How About Im Nothing At All......then you say how do you like me now....kidding....but on no occasion should no man those brainless insensitive creatures i swear i think that they dont even use there brains before junk starts falling out of there mouth ask you man to put the shoe on the other foot ask him straight up if a former lover make it a great love of your life for goodness sake...was to still have your heart and it was all you ever spoke of and you looked into your current mans eyes and said" honey i like you but I will always love him till i die" I dont think so it wouldnt fly so throw that in there and when he acts retarded and jealous because hes not thinking right at the moment tell him well what goes around comes around and thats our new family rule......o.k and if you havent had anyone that special before him tell him that you will go out and find someone to make you feel good because today is the day when i start to think of my needs first. trust me his eyes will pop out men hate weak woman they need a challenge so fight your fish and catch him pull the hook and fry him up....
2007-03-27 06:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a stand......your instincts are usually right about this type of thing. Either his not paying attention to you or whatever, you have some worry about his ex in YOUR relationship.
If he discredits you, then tell him you could find someone else to listen to you....If he doesnt' get the hint by then, then dump him, he sounds like he is stuck in a rut with a loser gf like he is a loser bf, sorry to say.
2007-03-27 06:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not be loyal to you if he is still thinking and talking and loving the ex. Be strong and let him go now before he breaks your heart and goes back to the ex.
2007-03-27 06:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be worried gal he has even admitted to you that he still loves her,He is not over her and trying to replace her with you, the next thing he'll be trying to change you to become like her. If I were you I'd leave while I still can
2007-03-27 06:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex is more part of the relationship then you are, she fills up more space in your relationship than you do.
He's doing nothing to make you feel secure in your relationship, which seems to revolve around her.
Honey, time to be honest and move along. He should be telling you how he loves you, not her.
2007-03-27 07:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have confidence in yourself.
Your happiness shouldn't be dependant on your boyfriend.
If things don't work out between you two because of his ex, there is really nothing you can do about it.
So just accept that he hasn't gotten over his ex and let time heal everything.
2007-03-27 06:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should ALWAYS defend you first & even if he does he has no right saying he will always love her when he knows it bothers you. Classless! Move on & find someone that wants a real relationship.
2007-03-27 06:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyEddy06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to familiar to me, I would be worried.
Even if they never get back together, how can a person compete with someone else that they love.
If I were you I would start hardening my heart now.
Good luck
2007-03-27 06:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by twyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋